antidonjuan
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Is saying "happy birthday" to a pretty girl an AFC move or a warm statement?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Saying happy birthday: An AFC Move?
- Thread starter antidonjuan
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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come on, i mean... seriously?
it doesn't matter if it's DJ or not. it's a nice gesture that everyone can appreciate.
just make sure you find out its her birthday in a non-stalkerish way.
it doesn't matter if it's DJ or not. it's a nice gesture that everyone can appreciate.
just make sure you find out its her birthday in a non-stalkerish way.
MotownMack
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LOL. You're joking, right?
You should not be asking this question at 126 posts, but at least you have the appropriate user name.
No it's not AFC or DJ, it's called basic manners. It could be a decent way to open a conversation if you branch out from there, but by itself it's unlikely to help you or hurt you.
You should not be asking this question at 126 posts, but at least you have the appropriate user name.
No it's not AFC or DJ, it's called basic manners. It could be a decent way to open a conversation if you branch out from there, but by itself it's unlikely to help you or hurt you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Social Calibration
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Pointless question, and I know you're not serious. You're either stupid or just bored.
Deadly_Assassin
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whos got the troll spray?
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
There is NOTHING AFC about saying happy birthday.
It's not saying "Happy Birthday," it's how you say it. Your body language , vocal tone and subcommunication has to be strong and you have to be on your A-game.
You also have to calibrate properly
You can get away with saying "Happy B-day" to a HB 10 or HB 9 and even some HB 8s.
But for HB 7s and lower, I recommend the proper "Happy Birthday." They're not as used to Don Juans approaching them as much as HBs 8 and up.
You also have to calibrate properly
You can get away with saying "Happy B-day" to a HB 10 or HB 9 and even some HB 8s.
But for HB 7s and lower, I recommend the proper "Happy Birthday." They're not as used to Don Juans approaching them as much as HBs 8 and up.
ezily
Senior Don Juan
It can be AFC. If you do it over facebook or myspace that is lame. If you send a text that is lame. If you send an email that is lame. If you write a message more that happy birthday that is lame.
So the best way to do it is in person. Just be cool and smooth about it. It's fine if you do it this way. Also, don't make it seem like you went out of your way. AND don't buy her flowers or any of that other sh1t.
btw, the reason I'm against the internet thing is because EVERY loser AFC does it. I mean just look at some of the walls of hot girls. You'll see guys posting lame and retarded comments ALL the time. It makes me cringe when I see that stuff.
So the best way to do it is in person. Just be cool and smooth about it. It's fine if you do it this way. Also, don't make it seem like you went out of your way. AND don't buy her flowers or any of that other sh1t.
btw, the reason I'm against the internet thing is because EVERY loser AFC does it. I mean just look at some of the walls of hot girls. You'll see guys posting lame and retarded comments ALL the time. It makes me cringe when I see that stuff.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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hah good one!Max Power said:
Damn!
:crackup:
If you say something to get approval - AFC.
If you say VERY NICE something because someone deserves it - Right.
If you say something to make someone happy but don't really want approval- Right!
Be nice often!
:crackup:
If you say something to get approval - AFC.
If you say VERY NICE something because someone deserves it - Right.
If you say something to make someone happy but don't really want approval- Right!
Be nice often!