BlackDragon
Don Juan
Is it ok to use this. Like if I saw a cute girl in my class and I say "Whats up cutie." Wouldn't this let the girl know that you have some intrest in her? Sometimes girls would call me handsome or sweetie and I kinda like it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Saying "cutie" and "sweetie"
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
the_ajp
Don Juan
Well it might but you should watch out for the friend factor because friends can call someone cutie without all the underlying sexual and emotional bagage. And also the delivery is very important you can't say "Hi cutie" with the shyguy routine I think it has to be delivered with an air. If you know what I mean.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Dang skippy. And what exactly is wrong with letting her know you have SOME interest? If you're not pouring your heart out like some wussy AFC trying to win her over with love letters and 12 long stemmed roses before you even met her, then what's the problem? If you aren't being a wuss but being confident and not hesitating, what's the prob?Originally posted by the_ajp
Well it might but you should watch out for the friend factor because friends can call someone cutie without all the underlying sexual and emotional bagage. And also the delivery is very important you can't say "Hi cutie" with the shyguy routine I think it has to be delivered with an air. If you know what I mean.
RogueWarrior
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As long as the subject has been opened, how about other terms-of-endearment such as "Hon", "Dear", "Beautiful", etc.?
My experience is that "Dear" is a little more friend-ish. I once said "Hey beautiful" to a female friend and her response was "Hey gorgeous". But, alas, I was a clueless AFC and didn't think much of it....and damn she was cute too....dang it.
My experience is that "Dear" is a little more friend-ish. I once said "Hey beautiful" to a female friend and her response was "Hey gorgeous". But, alas, I was a clueless AFC and didn't think much of it....and damn she was cute too....dang it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When you want to show interest, say it in a way that shows interest. When you want to be taken as a friend, say it in a way that is harmless, plutonic and above all almost mechanic. Knowing these qualities you now know that it should be not what you say, but how you say it.
-Grey Fox
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i like it too when girls call me handsome lol... apart from that, I always tell everyone to try to play it cool when someone compliments them, so if someone tells me hello handsome, I act indifferent to the compliment, because women would be testing us at that point, when women test us we should always remain calm and relax.
Didn't you just answer your own question? By saying "What up cutie" what are you trying to accomplish...think about it.Is it ok to use this. Like if I saw a cute girl in my class and I say "Whats up cutie." Wouldn't this let the girl know that you have some intrest in her? Sometimes girls would call me handsome or sweetie and I kinda like it.
~ivan
PS: it's OK to do whatever you want...this is not science...