BlackDragon
Don Juan
Is it ok to use this. Like if I saw a cute girl in my class and I say "Whats up cutie." Wouldn't this let the girl know that you have some intrest in her? Sometimes girls would call me handsome or sweetie and I kinda like it.
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The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
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Saying "cutie" and "sweetie"
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
the_ajp
Don Juan
Well it might but you should watch out for the friend factor because friends can call someone cutie without all the underlying sexual and emotional bagage. And also the delivery is very important you can't say "Hi cutie" with the shyguy routine I think it has to be delivered with an air. If you know what I mean.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Dang skippy. And what exactly is wrong with letting her know you have SOME interest? If you're not pouring your heart out like some wussy AFC trying to win her over with love letters and 12 long stemmed roses before you even met her, then what's the problem? If you aren't being a wuss but being confident and not hesitating, what's the prob?Originally posted by the_ajp
Well it might but you should watch out for the friend factor because friends can call someone cutie without all the underlying sexual and emotional bagage. And also the delivery is very important you can't say "Hi cutie" with the shyguy routine I think it has to be delivered with an air. If you know what I mean.
RogueWarrior
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As long as the subject has been opened, how about other terms-of-endearment such as "Hon", "Dear", "Beautiful", etc.?
My experience is that "Dear" is a little more friend-ish. I once said "Hey beautiful" to a female friend and her response was "Hey gorgeous". But, alas, I was a clueless AFC and didn't think much of it....and damn she was cute too....dang it.
My experience is that "Dear" is a little more friend-ish. I once said "Hey beautiful" to a female friend and her response was "Hey gorgeous". But, alas, I was a clueless AFC and didn't think much of it....and damn she was cute too....dang it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When you want to show interest, say it in a way that shows interest. When you want to be taken as a friend, say it in a way that is harmless, plutonic and above all almost mechanic. Knowing these qualities you now know that it should be not what you say, but how you say it.
-Grey Fox
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i like it too when girls call me handsome lol... apart from that, I always tell everyone to try to play it cool when someone compliments them, so if someone tells me hello handsome, I act indifferent to the compliment, because women would be testing us at that point, when women test us we should always remain calm and relax.
Didn't you just answer your own question? By saying "What up cutie" what are you trying to accomplish...think about it.Is it ok to use this. Like if I saw a cute girl in my class and I say "Whats up cutie." Wouldn't this let the girl know that you have some intrest in her? Sometimes girls would call me handsome or sweetie and I kinda like it.
~ivan
PS: it's OK to do whatever you want...this is not science...