"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Said why you had sex with me if you weren't serious with me

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This girl is kind of a nut, she is 34, can't kiss at all, don't svck. Basically I opened up online dating profile again, this time to find an ltr, on 2nd day I found the girl I want. This nut chick was just many that I messaged. On our 1st date she didn't speak much, couldn't hold conversation, I knew immediately she is not what I want, I just went forward for sex, but didn't let her know that I just want fb. I had sex with her for two nights at my place, each time I was dissapointed - I can jerk off and orgasm better, plus she pushed me every time I snored. I stopped answering her calls and messaging her, thinking she'd get an idea. Then one day I was out and she come up to me, I told her I'm not interested in her, and asked her to leave me alone. Several weeks later, this girl comes to my work, like its nothing, and I tell her straight, wtf are you coming here, I have another girl, I love another girl, I don't want you. She cried and said then why did you had sex with me if it wasn't serious.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I reckon she is trying to guilt trip you. She's not being rational so don't try to reason with the girl. Respond with actions, not words, if you want her to leave you alone.
 
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That's mostly on you. You don't let women you have no intention of being serious with sleep over.

And if she was so bad then why was there a second time? Are you that desperate? Is this your "soul mate" chick from the other thread you met once and wanted to marry?
 
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marmel75 said:
That's mostly on you. You don't let women you have no intention of being serious with sleep over.

And if she was so bad then why was there a second time? Are you that desperate? Is this your "soul mate" chick from the other thread you met once and wanted to marry?
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:down: I know, right, cuz we all know that women don't EVER enjoy sex just for sex. In 2015 these woman are so reserved, and they only have sex with their "soul mates" and guys they plan on marrying.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Lol, you're right to not put up with kind of disrespectful bullsh*t.
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Again, why the fvck is OP allowing some random chick to sleep over?? That's weak sh!t bro...sleep overs are reserved for girlfriends.

Then OP wonders why chick thought he was serious? OP is clueless as to how things work apparently
 
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marmel75 said:
Again, why the fvck is OP allowing some random chick to sleep over?? That's weak sh!t bro...sleep overs are reserved for girlfriends.

Then OP wonders why chick thought he was serious? OP is clueless as to how things work apparently
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because he don't care? because he want a quickie in the morning? who the **** cares? only thing I normally do is not bring girls to my home, so no surprise shows up on my door can happen, or is on her home or a motel, serious though if she keeps doing this better you start to put the cops after her
 
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I brought her over because I wanted to sleep with someone, 1st time she kept waking me because I was snoring, 2nd time she kept waking me up because she wanted sex, we fvcked like 8 times, then I said fvck it and went to sleep.
 
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because he don't care? because he want a quickie in the morning? who the **** cares? only thing I normally do is not bring girls to my home, so no surprise shows up on my door can happen, or is on her home or a motel, serious though if she keeps doing this better you start to put the cops after her
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Point is you can't have it both ways. You can't treat a woman like your girlfriend then wonder why she is acting like she is your girlfriend. OP wants his cake and eat it too.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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marmel75 said:
Point is you can't have it both ways. You can't treat a woman like your girlfriend then wonder why she is acting like she is your girlfriend. OP wants his cake and eat it too.
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still not seeing the problem, sure he can work better after this and not let her know where he works and he lives, but then again, if was the otehr way around you guys would say he was the one doing it wrong for wanting more then she is willing to offer now, so serious I don't feel bad about her, and I hope the op will learn to do better next time
 
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marmel75 said:
Point is you can't have it both ways. You can't treat a woman like your girlfriend then wonder why she is acting like she is your girlfriend. OP wants his cake and eat it too.
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Yeah except, after ignoring her completely and explicitly telling her to go away because he wasn't interested... she then shows up to his work weeks (???) later and cries because she thought they were still together.

Her initial confusion was understandable albeit naive, the OP could have handled that better. But her continued confusion after he told her directly face to face, that's 110% on her.
 
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Who cares. The fact is you don't want her anymore. If she bothers you again, just report her to the cops for stalking. She has all the traits of a bunny boiler.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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