"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jadeona13

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Hi. A lot of time when i talk to my girlfriend(not other girls just my girlfriend) she calls me rude.. or brings up things she thinks i do that are rude

heres an example..
my gf called me the other day and the call disconnected. I called back 2 mins later and said ''u called?''..she said that was rude..she knows i hate the phone and said i only say hi no nothing and ok..and i said..'u kno i hate talkin on the phone so be happy with hi no thongi and ok'' and she was like UR SOO RUDEE..

i dont get it i didnt even think i was rude and i never heard anyone call me that but my gf..everyone else says im polite and respectful of others
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tick37

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You need to learn how to use punctuation, but anyway.

Don't let her change you. Once she does, she has the upper hand. Let her complain. If she doesn't like you, then she should find someone more suited for her.
 

sherineo

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ask other people if they think the same bout you being rude ...if not then she's just negging you...play along...

but for god's sakes dont get conscious over what a pv55y told you about you...
 

Mr. Me

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Barring that you're actually rude...

"You're rude/You're mean" = "You're not doing what I want."
 

Dole

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Relating to this,
So what if your girlfriend tells you that she doesn't want to be around you when you are drunk/high(weed) is that acceptable?
If she tells me that I should not drink as much or smoke weed, its actually for the best for my health but I do it anyways cause I am out with friends should I listen to her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sexual

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I'm with Mr. Me.

I believe though that she's already in control of you. It would be a waste of time to try and fix a bytch that's already taken control of the relationship.
 

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jadeona13 said:
Hi. A lot of time when i talk to my girlfriend(not other girls just my girlfriend) she calls me rude.. or brings up things she thinks i do that are rude

heres an example..
my gf called me the other day and the call disconnected. I called back 2 mins later and said ''u called?''..she said that was rude..she knows i hate the phone and said i only say hi no nothing and ok..and i said..'u kno i hate talkin on the phone so be happy with hi no thongi and ok'' and she was like UR SOO RUDEE..

i dont get it i didnt even think i was rude and i never heard anyone call me that but my gf..everyone else says im polite and respectful of others
I usually make fun of them when they do this and I go "Excuse me" with lots of sarcasm.
 
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