Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It's a perverse society. Tingles, cads and her own disposable income rule. Five odd decades of ceaseless social re-engineering has seen the allure and rewards (top tier puzzy and reverence from the masses) for the responsible civilization builders/innovators gone the way of the dodo. Personally I'm not complaining , I capitalized on it like every other C+ azzhole out there.Scormus said:Sounds perverse to me.
You're expecting a women to act logically.... haven't you learned?Scormus said:Sounds perverse to me.
It kind of undermines becoming the latter if the former is a lot less investment and gets more *****.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nah he's not stupid. But he has developed a system of game for unattractive guys...because he is one. Dude looks like he just crawled out of a gutter.Colossus said:Keep in mind Roosh's experience with women is largely limited to pickup. Plain and simple. He has developed great systems for meeting women, but they all revolve around 1) nightlife, and 2) cold approaches. He makes a lot of inductive judgments about women (many of which are true), but once again he has a limited frame of personal reference. The guy travels, works on ebooks and monetizing his blogs, and simply tries to lay higher and higher quality (read: hotter, nicer) women. He has no real LTR experience that I'm aware of, and no hobbies or other pursuits that take up more of his time than writing about and profiting from game.
He's not stupid. He's made a decent living out of his "Bang" books and now RoK. He bans anyone on his forum, twitter, or RoK who is outspoken against him (myself included, lol). I think his pickup advice is second to none, but I would take any other broader observations made by him with a grain of salt. He's a career PUA living in Poland.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Don't know if I'd go that far, he's no Brad Pitt but he's probably got 85ish? percent of guys here covered. (no hommus)GS750 said:Nah he's not stupid. But he has developed a system of game for unattractive guys...because he is one. Dude looks like he just crawled out of a gutter.
Maybe poor choice of words. But he's got a lot of money from selling books so I'm sure that helps too. He's put the time in and probably makes a very good living off of it.( . )( . ) said:Don't know if I'd go that far, he's no Brad Pitt but he's probably got 85ish? percent of guys here covered. (no hommus)
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-4k-t5cZMC2E/TiOKccgCRAI/AAAAAAAACfU/eni5PMFCs70/s1600/rooshv.jpg
In other words he's not strikingly ugly enough for grown men to be mimicking chickish behaviour by calling him "unattractive" in the first place in my opinion.
Secondly. Game is game is game. There's no differing schools magic the gathering style and 1 more effective for fugly dudes. It's game. Neg a 9 in this sea of supplicating manginas and she tingles regardless.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I hope so. I've been watching the man closely for over a decade? and for the good he's done for his fellow man, the number of men's eyes he's opened, the burning hatred, abuse and threats he's received from Western orca's and their mangina lap dogs, the failed attempts of lamestream media beatups to making SPLC "hate" lists. Whatever he's made it's not enough.GS750 said:Maybe poor choice of words. But he's got a lot of money from selling books so I'm sure that helps too. He's put the time in and probably makes a very good living off of it.
No doubt the guy has earned whatever he's got. It takes a lot of balls to give up a mainsteam career and go out and pave your own way like he did. I don't agree with everything he says but I cannot disagree with you on these points. The fact that he's on the SPLC radar is just asinine.( . )( . ) said:I hope so. I've been watching the man closely for over a decade? and for the good he's done for his fellow man, the number of men's eyes he's opened, the burning hatred, abuse and threats he's received from Western orca's and their mangina lap dogs, the failed attempts of lamestream media beatups to making SPLC "hate" lists. Whatever he's made it's not enough.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.