Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lol. as great as casino was - it was hardly a romance movie.Peaks&Valleys said:Most of the time, yes, movies can create an AFC.
There are a few out there that are spot on though. "Casino" comes to mind. Dude is a millionaire and runs a Casino but his wife steals money from him and gives it to some actual pimp that she's still in love with.
Oh gotcha, romance movies...:-) said:lol. as great as casino was - it was hardly a romance movie.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Romance movies aren't supposed to lead guys to be alpha, they, along with other types of entertainment, are supposed to play to your fantasy and get to your emotion so youLeonSK said:Think twice before copying the moves in movies... such as the crazy chases in Crazy, Stupid, Love.
I have copied some stupid moves from movies and ended like a disaster. Have guys had similar experiences?
Right. Plus they want to make money. That would be tough writing something where the woman falls for the Antagonist (bad boy), and leaves the protaganist (guy who buys her dinner) at home curled up in the fetal position waiting for her phone call. And the labeling the movie Romance. Women would run out of the movie theatre screaming "we're not like that!!!" and demanding their money back and giving it horrible reviews.nismo-4 said:Beta males (well, beta men getting movie credits and money to get Benzes) write this bullsh*t. Beta men breeding beta men.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
THIS. Music has a very strong effect on everything. What you won't hear is the rushing noise of traffic, the guy cursing at the obnoxious driver that just cut him off, the heavy raindrops landing on the sidewalk, the loud woman on her phone etc.Night-hawk said:Music and soundtrack in movies has a huge affect as well. Many scenes you watch would not have the same emotional impact without it.
Music has an anchoring effect. Guys watch these dialogues go on in romantic dramas or comedies and associate those good feelings from the music and scenes to fantasies of recreating it in their lives.
How many guys have cranked up Bryan Adams, Everything I Do I Do It for You, and went over imagined scenarios of white knighting over girls, and gaining intimacy and affection from them. I know I used to. That is some blue pill ingesting stuff.
Van Damme movies are like porn.VladPatton said:Thinking you're gonna get laid from those movies equate to thinking you'll beat Van Damme in a fight after watching Bloodsport!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
my ex landlady was a romance 'novelist'. she was a fvcking nightmare - talk about delusions of grandeur - thought she was barbara cartland. plus her husband was the most weak, beta male you could ever find. but he was a provider.Oxide said:You don't want to know how much Romance BOOKS mislead women.
Ok, I know you do.
here is the list of what is trending, bestselling right into the minds of the voracious female readers:
1. guy is a billionaire. non negotiable.
2. guy was a cowboy, but now:
3. is a knuckle boxing fighter, may be MMA
4. he is ripped, he is hard muscle
5. he has a big cokk
6. he is dominant and always in charge
now those are not separate. those HAVE to be there as one.
what requirement for the main female lead?
1.she has to be plain (relatable)
that's it.
The women who read this are all around you. They are the plane janes. What does that tell you about expectations? Sure, it is an escape. But they read 5 of those books a week.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.