Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
lol. as great as casino was - it was hardly a romance movie.Peaks&Valleys said:Most of the time, yes, movies can create an AFC.
There are a few out there that are spot on though. "Casino" comes to mind. Dude is a millionaire and runs a Casino but his wife steals money from him and gives it to some actual pimp that she's still in love with.
Oh gotcha, romance movies...:-) said:lol. as great as casino was - it was hardly a romance movie.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Romance movies aren't supposed to lead guys to be alpha, they, along with other types of entertainment, are supposed to play to your fantasy and get to your emotion so youLeonSK said:Think twice before copying the moves in movies... such as the crazy chases in Crazy, Stupid, Love.
I have copied some stupid moves from movies and ended like a disaster. Have guys had similar experiences?
Right. Plus they want to make money. That would be tough writing something where the woman falls for the Antagonist (bad boy), and leaves the protaganist (guy who buys her dinner) at home curled up in the fetal position waiting for her phone call. And the labeling the movie Romance. Women would run out of the movie theatre screaming "we're not like that!!!" and demanding their money back and giving it horrible reviews.nismo-4 said:Beta males (well, beta men getting movie credits and money to get Benzes) write this bullsh*t. Beta men breeding beta men.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
THIS. Music has a very strong effect on everything. What you won't hear is the rushing noise of traffic, the guy cursing at the obnoxious driver that just cut him off, the heavy raindrops landing on the sidewalk, the loud woman on her phone etc.Night-hawk said:Music and soundtrack in movies has a huge affect as well. Many scenes you watch would not have the same emotional impact without it.
Music has an anchoring effect. Guys watch these dialogues go on in romantic dramas or comedies and associate those good feelings from the music and scenes to fantasies of recreating it in their lives.
How many guys have cranked up Bryan Adams, Everything I Do I Do It for You, and went over imagined scenarios of white knighting over girls, and gaining intimacy and affection from them. I know I used to. That is some blue pill ingesting stuff.
Van Damme movies are like porn.VladPatton said:Thinking you're gonna get laid from those movies equate to thinking you'll beat Van Damme in a fight after watching Bloodsport!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
my ex landlady was a romance 'novelist'. she was a fvcking nightmare - talk about delusions of grandeur - thought she was barbara cartland. plus her husband was the most weak, beta male you could ever find. but he was a provider.Oxide said:You don't want to know how much Romance BOOKS mislead women.
Ok, I know you do.
here is the list of what is trending, bestselling right into the minds of the voracious female readers:
1. guy is a billionaire. non negotiable.
2. guy was a cowboy, but now:
3. is a knuckle boxing fighter, may be MMA
4. he is ripped, he is hard muscle
5. he has a big cokk
6. he is dominant and always in charge
now those are not separate. those HAVE to be there as one.
what requirement for the main female lead?
1.she has to be plain (relatable)
that's it.
The women who read this are all around you. They are the plane janes. What does that tell you about expectations? Sure, it is an escape. But they read 5 of those books a week.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.