I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lol. as great as casino was - it was hardly a romance movie.Peaks&Valleys said:Most of the time, yes, movies can create an AFC.
There are a few out there that are spot on though. "Casino" comes to mind. Dude is a millionaire and runs a Casino but his wife steals money from him and gives it to some actual pimp that she's still in love with.
Oh gotcha, romance movies...:-) said:lol. as great as casino was - it was hardly a romance movie.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Romance movies aren't supposed to lead guys to be alpha, they, along with other types of entertainment, are supposed to play to your fantasy and get to your emotion so youLeonSK said:Think twice before copying the moves in movies... such as the crazy chases in Crazy, Stupid, Love.
I have copied some stupid moves from movies and ended like a disaster. Have guys had similar experiences?
Right. Plus they want to make money. That would be tough writing something where the woman falls for the Antagonist (bad boy), and leaves the protaganist (guy who buys her dinner) at home curled up in the fetal position waiting for her phone call. And the labeling the movie Romance. Women would run out of the movie theatre screaming "we're not like that!!!" and demanding their money back and giving it horrible reviews.nismo-4 said:Beta males (well, beta men getting movie credits and money to get Benzes) write this bullsh*t. Beta men breeding beta men.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
THIS. Music has a very strong effect on everything. What you won't hear is the rushing noise of traffic, the guy cursing at the obnoxious driver that just cut him off, the heavy raindrops landing on the sidewalk, the loud woman on her phone etc.Night-hawk said:Music and soundtrack in movies has a huge affect as well. Many scenes you watch would not have the same emotional impact without it.
Music has an anchoring effect. Guys watch these dialogues go on in romantic dramas or comedies and associate those good feelings from the music and scenes to fantasies of recreating it in their lives.
How many guys have cranked up Bryan Adams, Everything I Do I Do It for You, and went over imagined scenarios of white knighting over girls, and gaining intimacy and affection from them. I know I used to. That is some blue pill ingesting stuff.
Van Damme movies are like porn.VladPatton said:Thinking you're gonna get laid from those movies equate to thinking you'll beat Van Damme in a fight after watching Bloodsport!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
my ex landlady was a romance 'novelist'. she was a fvcking nightmare - talk about delusions of grandeur - thought she was barbara cartland. plus her husband was the most weak, beta male you could ever find. but he was a provider.Oxide said:You don't want to know how much Romance BOOKS mislead women.
Ok, I know you do.
here is the list of what is trending, bestselling right into the minds of the voracious female readers:
1. guy is a billionaire. non negotiable.
2. guy was a cowboy, but now:
3. is a knuckle boxing fighter, may be MMA
4. he is ripped, he is hard muscle
5. he has a big cokk
6. he is dominant and always in charge
now those are not separate. those HAVE to be there as one.
what requirement for the main female lead?
1.she has to be plain (relatable)
that's it.
The women who read this are all around you. They are the plane janes. What does that tell you about expectations? Sure, it is an escape. But they read 5 of those books a week.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.