Risk telling the truth?

[chris2for]

If you're seeing someone and you really like them, can see yourself becoming exclusive/dating them down the road but you're still working on getting over an ex would you risk being honest and telling them this?

 

[Tictac]

If you're seeing someone and you really like them, can see yourself becoming exclusive/dating them down the road but you're still working on getting over an ex would you risk being honest and telling them this?

How long have you been 'seeing' her?

 

[chris2for]

How long have you been 'seeing' her?

A few months. I've been kind of taking things super slow and I think she's been picking up on that.

 

[Tictac]

If you're thinking exclusivity and a long term relationship after 'a few months', you're not taking it slow at all.

If she begins to bring up exclusivity, that's taking is 'super slow'. You are already there.

I wouldn't be telling her anything like that.

Ask yourself 'what good will happen next' if you do.

 

[finality]

Always ask yourself: will this make me seem more attractive?

There are times when opening up and making yourself vulnerable are a good thing but not about your ex.

 

[chris2for]

If you're thinking exclusivity and a long term relationship after 'a few months', you're not taking it slow at all.

If she begins to bring up exclusivity, that's taking is 'super slow'. You are already there.

I wouldn't be telling her anything like that.

Ask yourself 'what good will happen next' if you do.

Well I don't mean making it exclusive right now but I can see that she's a good catch. I wanted to say "I know I've been dragging my feet but it's because I'm still trying to mentally get over my ex and I just wanted to let you know that". How does that sound?

 

[Tictac]

"I know I've been dragging my feet but it's because I'm still trying to mentally get over my ex and I just wanted to let you know that". How does that sound?

Terrible.

Dragging your feet about what? Exclusivity.

Until she brings it up, you job is to "Hang out, have fun and hook up".

She is not your therapist. And if you try to make her your therapist, you won't have her to worry about.

 

[Fireballs]

Well I don't mean making it exclusive right now but I can see that she's a good catch. I wanted to say "I know I've been dragging my feet but it's because I'm still trying to mentally get over my ex and I just wanted to let you know that". How does that sound?

If you want her pvssy to dry up and her interest level to drop then sure go ahead and tell her..

 

[Billtx49]

Never let her see the great and powerful Oz behind the curtain until the time is right. Based on what you said, now is not the time for that kind of openness if you really feel the need to tell her.

 

[marmel75]

If you're seeing someone and you really like them, can see yourself becoming exclusive/dating them down the road but you're still working on getting over an ex would you risk being honest and telling them this?

"Getting over an ex" is for women to worry about. Men move forward with their life and don't look back.