I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What's your finder fee?waxlrose said:So don't try to talk people out of looking at THEIR options. Reading books may help some of the guys here and more power to them. If it's not something you require, don't read it. It may help other people start from scratch.
Oh, I get how negs work, and who they work on.waxlrose said:You guys just don't "get" how it works. A neg isn't an insult, it's a back-handed, compliment delivered playfully. You don't throw it until you have established some attraction by merely being interesting. You throw the neg to disqualify your sexual interest in the target. She is used to being hit on by everyone, but all of a sudden, someone different comes along-YOU. You don't want her. She wants to know why you are different. She is interested in you. You are now the "Hot Chick" in the interaction. You make it seem like you walk up, tell the chick she's fat and think that's what a neg is. Always remember-People want what they can't have, even if you have to give the impression that they can't have it. That's why it's called disqualification theory. And deep down, everybody is insecure in some way, they only will show it if they like you first. Negs work-Plain and Simple.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bvbidd said:Even though calling it negs is geeky. If it does not work your just too ugly for her to care.
It's not the fact she is so amazingly secure with herself that she can not socialize and actually reply when somebody teases her. If she rejects you after you teased her it's because your just not the type she's looking for and does not care what you think of her. End of story.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mystery Method dvd's: $Too much money.brucevangeorge said:I can review this product up in a few words: "I wish I got it off the internet instead"
Not to sure about that, as his writing style differs from that of Mystery's.Krassus said:Just so you guys know, waxlrose and mystery are the same personLook at his post history.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.