She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What's your finder fee?waxlrose said:So don't try to talk people out of looking at THEIR options. Reading books may help some of the guys here and more power to them. If it's not something you require, don't read it. It may help other people start from scratch.
Oh, I get how negs work, and who they work on.waxlrose said:You guys just don't "get" how it works. A neg isn't an insult, it's a back-handed, compliment delivered playfully. You don't throw it until you have established some attraction by merely being interesting. You throw the neg to disqualify your sexual interest in the target. She is used to being hit on by everyone, but all of a sudden, someone different comes along-YOU. You don't want her. She wants to know why you are different. She is interested in you. You are now the "Hot Chick" in the interaction. You make it seem like you walk up, tell the chick she's fat and think that's what a neg is. Always remember-People want what they can't have, even if you have to give the impression that they can't have it. That's why it's called disqualification theory. And deep down, everybody is insecure in some way, they only will show it if they like you first. Negs work-Plain and Simple.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Bvbidd said:Even though calling it negs is geeky. If it does not work your just too ugly for her to care.
It's not the fact she is so amazingly secure with herself that she can not socialize and actually reply when somebody teases her. If she rejects you after you teased her it's because your just not the type she's looking for and does not care what you think of her. End of story.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mystery Method dvd's: $Too much money.brucevangeorge said:I can review this product up in a few words: "I wish I got it off the internet instead"
Not to sure about that, as his writing style differs from that of Mystery's.Krassus said:Just so you guys know, waxlrose and mystery are the same personLook at his post history.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.