"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Rescheduling Dates? Low interest?

PapiChulo

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Rescheduling dates ahead of time after saying "Yes" is a sign of low IL?
That's considering it's in respectful manner, ahead of time, etc. Gotta give credit here.

She's supposedly has high IL but is a "known flake". I am the one with the low IL in here, though.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not really. I'd say it's indicator of enough interest to be considerate like htat.
 

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Read the "2 Strikes Rule. "
 

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jophil28 said:
Read the "2 Strikes Rule. "

Yeah, I am up to date with the rule. We rescheduled for now, she made herself pretty available, so I guess, if she cancels - it's strike 1 and I will just start ignoring her. Even before asking her out, I was somewhat concerned with her "flakiness", hence it's an indication of her low quality as a woman. I did pull this card: "I am gonna do something fun, (possibly with other women)".

In reality, I'll actually be spinning the other plate on that day.
 

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blueline said:
Not really. I'd say it's indicator of enough interest to be considerate like htat.

I agree with this one as well, it was rather mature and considerate of her, considering how "immature" she actually is.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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maqnetik said:
you ALLOWING her to "reschedule" indefinitely and repeatedly lowers not only your value but you bargaining leverage as well

set an expiration date on your time and stick to it


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Good point, highlight "indefinitely" and "repeatedly". One rescheduling - benefit of the doubt for now. If not, I ve got two others who are willing.
 
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