"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rescheduling Dates? Low interest?

PapiChulo

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Rescheduling dates ahead of time after saying "Yes" is a sign of low IL?
That's considering it's in respectful manner, ahead of time, etc. Gotta give credit here.

She's supposedly has high IL but is a "known flake". I am the one with the low IL in here, though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Not really. I'd say it's indicator of enough interest to be considerate like htat.
 

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Read the "2 Strikes Rule. "
 

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jophil28 said:
Read the "2 Strikes Rule. "

Yeah, I am up to date with the rule. We rescheduled for now, she made herself pretty available, so I guess, if she cancels - it's strike 1 and I will just start ignoring her. Even before asking her out, I was somewhat concerned with her "flakiness", hence it's an indication of her low quality as a woman. I did pull this card: "I am gonna do something fun, (possibly with other women)".

In reality, I'll actually be spinning the other plate on that day.
 

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blueline said:
Not really. I'd say it's indicator of enough interest to be considerate like htat.

I agree with this one as well, it was rather mature and considerate of her, considering how "immature" she actually is.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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maqnetik said:
you ALLOWING her to "reschedule" indefinitely and repeatedly lowers not only your value but you bargaining leverage as well

set an expiration date on your time and stick to it


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Good point, highlight "indefinitely" and "repeatedly". One rescheduling - benefit of the doubt for now. If not, I ve got two others who are willing.
 
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