Thanks, I didn't know about that! I am pleased to see myself ranked high there.Docs said:Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thanks, I didn't know about that! I am pleased to see myself ranked high there.Docs said:Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I have done. I suppose I am a little worried they'd give me neg points in retaliation though, which is an obvious flaw in the system.brucevangeorge said:Maybe you should take them down a notch.
I know a few of the posters up there have offered to me what would seem like illegal practice. They offered to give me good credit, if I give them some first. I would point fingers, but, nah, it won't help the overall situation.Jariel said:Thanks, I didn't know about that! I am pleased to see myself ranked high there.But generally, I do agree most posters on that list deserve to be there (with the obvious exceptions).
how do you find out who is in the top 10???flippinfreak said:Two of the top ten have offered to trade... that's as far as I will go.
how do you find out who is in the top 10???
^^^Docs said it a few posts back^^^Docs said:Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.
What we really need is the number to show.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That really surprises me as I believe all of those guys have good advice to give.flippinfreak said:Two of the top ten have offered to trade... that's as far as I will go.
I agree with the idea of a reputation feature being useful but I don't think the one we have makes much sense.Reputation is not useless. If a good amount of people use reputation properly, it works. If you bring down an idiot, but raise a great post, it helps to create the balance. Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.
Over time, if everyone starts and keeps using it properly, it can show someone that knows what they talk about.
What we really need is the number to show.
there are many of us feeling the same way, that the trolls with just click on anyones rep and add whatever they want.Ever onward said:What good is the Reputation System if it's so easily manipulated?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Hey that sounds like it could be effective. Maybe they even have more than just the 3 "categories" that I mentioned if anyone ever climbs that high.After 100 reputation points it adds on another green dot
I think it makes it all the way up to something like 9 dots on these scales...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Go to the Members List and click on reputation to sort the names by reputation.penkitten said:how do you even know who is the top two or the top 50?
Hey man, your rep won't suffer on account of me, you have lots of fans on this board. I've never seen any pics of your women, I was wondering if you're all talk.Shezz said:You git Ever Onward - you took away a Rep Point for my Field Report!! Now ill never have domination...![]()
You'll pay for this!! lol
jus kiddin man - Ill try and get some pics up for the FR soon -Sy has them atm
Sarge On...
At least her head isn't cropped outShe isnt hot like one of DrBeards
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.