"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Docs said:
Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.
Thanks, I didn't know about that! I am pleased to see myself ranked high there. :) But generally, I do agree most posters on that list deserve to be there (with the obvious exceptions).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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brucevangeorge said:
Maybe you should take them down a notch.
I have done. I suppose I am a little worried they'd give me neg points in retaliation though, which is an obvious flaw in the system.
 

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Jariel said:
Thanks, I didn't know about that! I am pleased to see myself ranked high there. :) But generally, I do agree most posters on that list deserve to be there (with the obvious exceptions).
I know a few of the posters up there have offered to me what would seem like illegal practice. They offered to give me good credit, if I give them some first. I would point fingers, but, nah, it won't help the overall situation.

Two of the top ten have offered to trade... that's as far as I will go.

<<For anybody who wants to disable their reputation>>

Top left corner is a link named "User CP" <click on it>

In the settings and options column there is a link "edit options" <click on it>

In the first set of options under "show my reputation level" <uncheck the check mark>
 

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how do you find out who is in the top 10???
Docs said:
Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.

What we really need is the number to show.
^^^Docs said it a few posts back^^^
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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flippinfreak said:
Two of the top ten have offered to trade... that's as far as I will go.
That really surprises me as I believe all of those guys have good advice to give.

However, sadly a lot of guys here care more about their egos and reputation in the community than giving tried and tested and practical advice. This is a problem that exists among PUAs and even the "top" gurus, and why we get so much bragging and 100s of theories that don't work in real life.

As far as I'm concerned, I give advice based on my experiences and believe it should help people avoid my mistakes and follow my successes. I'd like to think my reputation points are the result of helping visitors here, otherwise they're not actually worth anything.
 

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A TRADE?

HOLY CRAP.

GET A LIFE KIDS!



u should expose them for that idiocy~
 

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Reputation is not useless. If a good amount of people use reputation properly, it works. If you bring down an idiot, but raise a great post, it helps to create the balance. Going into the Member List, and clicking the "Reputation" header will show you the top reputation earners.

Over time, if everyone starts and keeps using it properly, it can show someone that knows what they talk about.

What we really need is the number to show.
I agree with the idea of a reputation feature being useful but I don't think the one we have makes much sense.

Like I said we have 3 different levels that I know of: an "unknown quantity" a "distinguished road" and "off the scale"

Now really, don't we need more than those three to cover such a wide variety of posters? Also, what's the order? Is being on a "distinguished road" better than being "off the scale"? Is being an "uknown quantinty" better than "off the scale"?

They need to cover the Reputation feature in the F.A.Q. page or somewhere else.

Also, I tried looking for my username on the ranking. I couldn't find my name within the first four pages and I was well below some made up troll jibberish like "#$%%(#" or other crazy listings like that. I guess I'm not Mr. Popular on this board but it is obvioius that a lot of trolls have been on here messing with reputations. What good is the Reputation System if it's so easily manipulated?
 
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Ever onward said:
What good is the Reputation System if it's so easily manipulated?
there are many of us feeling the same way, that the trolls with just click on anyones rep and add whatever they want.

but then it still boils down to , its the freggin internet , what do we really expect?

who knows if it can be improved?
 

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You just use it honourably, and if everyone else does, the trolls effect will be inversely propertional to the support the whole community has.

It's like...
1 (troll bad) vs 50 (legit. Good) odds. Person has 98 points out of a possible 102. [3.9% troll effectiveness]
Or
1 vs 10 odds. Person has 18 points out of a possible 22. [18.2% troll effectiveness]
Or...
1 vs 2 odds. Person has 4 points out of a possible 8.[50.0% troll effectiveness]



Think about it. You defeat trolls by support, and that's EVERYONE's support.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Uhm, here's something i just discovered about this feature. You can't give a rep + or - to the same person twice in a row. You get a message telling you to spread out your rep points to other people as well. You also can't add rep more than once to the same post.

This provides some "reputation spam" protection, but the fact remains that only 3 qualifiers do not really make a SCALE. We need something more elaborate, and that stupid green dot needs to become multiple green dots to show a better reputation. Or better yet, red dots for bad reputation.
 

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After 100 reputation points it adds on another green dot

I think it makes it all the way up to something like 9 dots on these scales...

Man, how was I so dense to miss the first question in this thread:p

Thanks for the "reputation scam" protection information though:D
 

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After 100 reputation points it adds on another green dot

I think it makes it all the way up to something like 9 dots on these scales...
Hey that sounds like it could be effective. Maybe they even have more than just the 3 "categories" that I mentioned if anyone ever climbs that high.

Still, they should have an explanation page somewhere to clue us in on how it all works.
 

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each to his own. personally i never look at that green bar, and will only judge posters by who they are. people who post photos that show their game will always be high up in my book. otherwise, until i learn who somebody is, i tend to be very suspicious of their advice.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how do you even know who is the top two or the top 50?
 

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penkitten said:
how do you even know who is the top two or the top 50?
Go to the Members List and click on reputation to sort the names by reputation.

I'm so honored that DrBeard posted on my thread :rockon:
 

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Shezz said:
You git Ever Onward - you took away a Rep Point for my Field Report!! Now ill never have domination...:cry:

You'll pay for this!! lol

jus kiddin man - Ill try and get some pics up for the FR soon -Sy has them atm

Sarge On...
Hey man, your rep won't suffer on account of me, you have lots of fans on this board. I've never seen any pics of your women, I was wondering if you're all talk.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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