I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The first was was definitely attractive. I would give her an easy 8.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I didnt want to add anything and use his text as the example of how it could be shorter but convey the original message.
I might try that the next time I give OLD a whirl. It seems that when I do happen to browse OLD and renew/start a new profile its the same old chicks. The new email might freshen things up a bit.
HB9?? More like an HB 3.5 with the body of a scrawny teenage boyHere is that other one that is about HB9. The pic is bad, but she has a smoking body and for 39 She'd be around HB9. That's the one from OLD that drove 60 miles to meet up with me and texted her eyeballs off before the date for 3 days. She was into me and laughing and everything UNTIL I told her the type of business I owned. Her attitude quickly changed after that. I guess she was gold digging.
Pretty simple.. No?@RickTheToad , if it helps, I know your lesson for biggoal by heart now.
Set OLD to Tampa.
Search Tampa area in OLD.
Set up dates.
Rent Air BnB in Tampa.
Drive to Tampa, date, get laid in Air BnB.
Drive home to sticks for work week.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Very true. Forgot about that one.
she might be a HB7 if in a sexy dress or slutted up
It's sad they pull that bs. Or have to pay for tinder to see who likes you.
I've heard you shouldn't include which sports team you like before a first date because some women will drop you over that.
then why did you include it in your original profile text, HMMMMM?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I dont need OLD nor do I rely on it. Its just another platform to use when I feel like it and in the market to potentially replace a plate.
Not being available might cost you a date. I lost one 45 miles away. A teacher who threw her number at me and all and wanted to meet and was all over me. I couldn't on that night because I worked. So after that she started to lose interest gradually. I should have called in sick into work for a first old date.
Women lie like crazy on old. No reason guys shouldn't level the playing field.
If you never get second dates from women from OLD then isn't that a good thing since you are wasting less of your time?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
not if its them rejecting you... every time.
One of them liked me and Ioi on first date but she blew up at me because she wouldnt reply to my texts after the date very quick and I kinda called her out on it. She said she wanted to go out again but called me a jerk for calling her out and she said she wasnt going to go out with Me again because of that.
That's not what I meant to say. If Biggoal is not getting a second date from anyone period, and the women are rejecting him, then he's just wasting his time because that ended in a dead-end. IF Biggoal's success rate is 0% (i.e. zero second dates, zero "whatever") and there is no end-game to then it's all fantasy until the bubble pops at the first meet-up.
seems youre recognized after you have been added to public global list of people who dont get laid
That's your normal pattern of behaviour. I think even rickthetoad said you messed up something he was trying to set up for you with the exact same antics. It's not a one-off.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.