You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The first was was definitely attractive. I would give her an easy 8.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I didnt want to add anything and use his text as the example of how it could be shorter but convey the original message.
I might try that the next time I give OLD a whirl. It seems that when I do happen to browse OLD and renew/start a new profile its the same old chicks. The new email might freshen things up a bit.
HB9?? More like an HB 3.5 with the body of a scrawny teenage boyHere is that other one that is about HB9. The pic is bad, but she has a smoking body and for 39 She'd be around HB9. That's the one from OLD that drove 60 miles to meet up with me and texted her eyeballs off before the date for 3 days. She was into me and laughing and everything UNTIL I told her the type of business I owned. Her attitude quickly changed after that. I guess she was gold digging.
Pretty simple.. No?@RickTheToad , if it helps, I know your lesson for biggoal by heart now.
Set OLD to Tampa.
Search Tampa area in OLD.
Set up dates.
Rent Air BnB in Tampa.
Drive to Tampa, date, get laid in Air BnB.
Drive home to sticks for work week.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Very true. Forgot about that one.
she might be a HB7 if in a sexy dress or slutted up
It's sad they pull that bs. Or have to pay for tinder to see who likes you.
I've heard you shouldn't include which sports team you like before a first date because some women will drop you over that.
then why did you include it in your original profile text, HMMMMM?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I dont need OLD nor do I rely on it. Its just another platform to use when I feel like it and in the market to potentially replace a plate.
Not being available might cost you a date. I lost one 45 miles away. A teacher who threw her number at me and all and wanted to meet and was all over me. I couldn't on that night because I worked. So after that she started to lose interest gradually. I should have called in sick into work for a first old date.
Women lie like crazy on old. No reason guys shouldn't level the playing field.
If you never get second dates from women from OLD then isn't that a good thing since you are wasting less of your time?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
not if its them rejecting you... every time.
One of them liked me and Ioi on first date but she blew up at me because she wouldnt reply to my texts after the date very quick and I kinda called her out on it. She said she wanted to go out again but called me a jerk for calling her out and she said she wasnt going to go out with Me again because of that.
That's not what I meant to say. If Biggoal is not getting a second date from anyone period, and the women are rejecting him, then he's just wasting his time because that ended in a dead-end. IF Biggoal's success rate is 0% (i.e. zero second dates, zero "whatever") and there is no end-game to then it's all fantasy until the bubble pops at the first meet-up.
seems youre recognized after you have been added to public global list of people who dont get laid
That's your normal pattern of behaviour. I think even rickthetoad said you messed up something he was trying to set up for you with the exact same antics. It's not a one-off.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.