Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Remember This !!!

Rubirosa

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Remind yourself that everything that you don't have and truly want is on the other side of some kind of fear. Any goal worth having is beyond your comfort zone, or you'd already have it. If you do exactly want you fear in pursuit of a dream or an important goal, you will often find that it's the surest path to success.

No, I didn't write this, I took it from the web, but it was a cut and paste job, so I can't remember the source. I just wanted to post some inspirational message to you guys for this weekend. Remember these words as you decide whether or not to approach that pretty girl.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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THAT is a very interesting message to me!

So it says if you somehow nervous about doing something it will almost surely be worth it, no matter what it is? (except for stupid things maybe)
 

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My interpretation is pretty literal : So many times, we want something, but we lack the courage to commit ourselves because the goal entails some kind of self sacrafice that is beyond our current comfort zone
 

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its similar to making a putt in golf or taking a penalty in soccer

its a simple thing to do, in practice, in training - when it doesnt matter

doing such a simple thing in front of thousands of people? its not the same task. now it matters.

confidence, mental strength, not letting the worry about it get to you - thats all it is
 

Tortendieb

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Rubirosa said:
My interpretation is pretty literal : So many times, we want something, but we lack the courage to commit ourselves because the goal entails some kind of self sacrafice that is beyond our current comfort zone
Yeah but that's hardly anything new, everybody knows it and you can find it in every 2nd post on this forum. Good on you though, if you can take the action where others write the words!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's always good to be reminded of things we've heard before. Sometimes one tiny nuance in the way it is re-worded can resonate with us.

Thanks for the post, Rubirosa.
 
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