"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Remember This !!!

Rubirosa

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Remind yourself that everything that you don't have and truly want is on the other side of some kind of fear. Any goal worth having is beyond your comfort zone, or you'd already have it. If you do exactly want you fear in pursuit of a dream or an important goal, you will often find that it's the surest path to success.

No, I didn't write this, I took it from the web, but it was a cut and paste job, so I can't remember the source. I just wanted to post some inspirational message to you guys for this weekend. Remember these words as you decide whether or not to approach that pretty girl.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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THAT is a very interesting message to me!

So it says if you somehow nervous about doing something it will almost surely be worth it, no matter what it is? (except for stupid things maybe)
 

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My interpretation is pretty literal : So many times, we want something, but we lack the courage to commit ourselves because the goal entails some kind of self sacrafice that is beyond our current comfort zone
 

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its similar to making a putt in golf or taking a penalty in soccer

its a simple thing to do, in practice, in training - when it doesnt matter

doing such a simple thing in front of thousands of people? its not the same task. now it matters.

confidence, mental strength, not letting the worry about it get to you - thats all it is
 

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Rubirosa said:
My interpretation is pretty literal : So many times, we want something, but we lack the courage to commit ourselves because the goal entails some kind of self sacrafice that is beyond our current comfort zone
Yeah but that's hardly anything new, everybody knows it and you can find it in every 2nd post on this forum. Good on you though, if you can take the action where others write the words!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's always good to be reminded of things we've heard before. Sometimes one tiny nuance in the way it is re-worded can resonate with us.

Thanks for the post, Rubirosa.
 
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