"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Remind yourself that everything that you don't have and truly want is on the other side of some kind of fear. Any goal worth having is beyond your comfort zone, or you'd already have it. If you do exactly want you fear in pursuit of a dream or an important goal, you will often find that it's the surest path to success.

No, I didn't write this, I took it from the web, but it was a cut and paste job, so I can't remember the source. I just wanted to post some inspirational message to you guys for this weekend. Remember these words as you decide whether or not to approach that pretty girl.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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THAT is a very interesting message to me!

So it says if you somehow nervous about doing something it will almost surely be worth it, no matter what it is? (except for stupid things maybe)
 

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My interpretation is pretty literal : So many times, we want something, but we lack the courage to commit ourselves because the goal entails some kind of self sacrafice that is beyond our current comfort zone
 

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its similar to making a putt in golf or taking a penalty in soccer

its a simple thing to do, in practice, in training - when it doesnt matter

doing such a simple thing in front of thousands of people? its not the same task. now it matters.

confidence, mental strength, not letting the worry about it get to you - thats all it is
 

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Rubirosa said:
My interpretation is pretty literal : So many times, we want something, but we lack the courage to commit ourselves because the goal entails some kind of self sacrafice that is beyond our current comfort zone
Yeah but that's hardly anything new, everybody knows it and you can find it in every 2nd post on this forum. Good on you though, if you can take the action where others write the words!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's always good to be reminded of things we've heard before. Sometimes one tiny nuance in the way it is re-worded can resonate with us.

Thanks for the post, Rubirosa.
 
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