jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hi guys, Johnny here.
The more exprience I get, the more I realize how useful it would have been to understand the rules of the game before making major life decisions.
That's why I think men need systems.
Not to eliminate risk, but to make calculated decisions and avoid blindly following the path society expects: You know... relationship → cohabitation → marriage → kids → financial entanglement, with potentially serious consequences (for men) if things go wrong.
We need to understand our options and choose deliberately, rather than simply copying our parents or friends.
This comes down to one fundamental question: Do you want children or not?
If you want kids:
1. The Unicorn: You find the right woman, marry her, and build a life together.
2. The 3 to 5 year project: If both of you are financially independent and own your own homes, keep your assets separate and rent a place together. Have and raise a child for 3–5 years, then reassess the relationship and decide whether to continue as a couple or co-parents.
If you don't want kids:
1. The Unicorn: Find the right woman, marry her, and build a life together without children.
2. Keep things flexible: Date and maintain relationships without rushing into permanent commitments. Stay independent, reassess periodically. This is not having multiple plates, but rather find a good woman, keep her until she has respect for you, while you both are monogamous and loyal while you keep track of your surroundings and your options.
The main idea is simple in each scenario you'll fall:
Know your options, understand the risks, and choose your path consciously.
Curious to hear how other guys approach this.
The more exprience I get, the more I realize how useful it would have been to understand the rules of the game before making major life decisions.
That's why I think men need systems.
Not to eliminate risk, but to make calculated decisions and avoid blindly following the path society expects: You know... relationship → cohabitation → marriage → kids → financial entanglement, with potentially serious consequences (for men) if things go wrong.
We need to understand our options and choose deliberately, rather than simply copying our parents or friends.
This comes down to one fundamental question: Do you want children or not?
If you want kids:
1. The Unicorn: You find the right woman, marry her, and build a life together.
2. The 3 to 5 year project: If both of you are financially independent and own your own homes, keep your assets separate and rent a place together. Have and raise a child for 3–5 years, then reassess the relationship and decide whether to continue as a couple or co-parents.
If you don't want kids:
1. The Unicorn: Find the right woman, marry her, and build a life together without children.
2. Keep things flexible: Date and maintain relationships without rushing into permanent commitments. Stay independent, reassess periodically. This is not having multiple plates, but rather find a good woman, keep her until she has respect for you, while you both are monogamous and loyal while you keep track of your surroundings and your options.
The main idea is simple in each scenario you'll fall:
Know your options, understand the risks, and choose your path consciously.
Curious to hear how other guys approach this.
