"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Relationship: HELP, I'm an emotional wreck!

Mikeman!

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shyguy32, who are you to tell me what I felt? You're not me.

I wish I didn't love her at this point honestly because I'm going through hell right now...I can't eat, I can't sleep, and even when I try to keep myself busy I still can't stop thinking about what happened...it's torture!

and if I do email her again, it will be in a month or so, asking how shes doing and allude to the fact that I have other women in my life now and have moved on.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJDamage

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Originally posted by Mikeman!
if I do email her again, it will be in a month or so, asking how shes doing and allude to the fact that I have other women in my life now and have moved on.
You sound like a junkie who don't know when to call it quits.

Just like any addiction you got to stop cold turkey. You will suffer but each day its going to be better.

Never again should you cross paths with this woman because it will bring you back to square 1.

End it move on with your life and forget about her. Time helps heal all wounds.

DjDamage
 

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Mike...I've been there buddy...talk to some chick on the phone for awhile and you start to feel something you think is love. When in reality it's infatuation and the idea of being with her. You can't be in love with someone you don't know. You might have know things about her, but you didn't know her.

It's not a slap in your face I promise you, it's just the facts.
 

Mikeman!

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Update(for those who are interested):

Like some have said here, if I DID want this to work out, the best thing would be for me to leave her alone...I did that and 2 days after Valentine's(today), she's now sent me a short e-mail via phone saying she's thinking about me and hopes I'm ok.

Now in the meantime I have been talking to two other girls and I have one of them who wants to sleep with me(although I'm not too interested in these girls, only 7's). Feels good to have the ball in my court, I can actually go without thinking about her every 1/2 hour now knowing that she's tried to get ahold of me.

I'm not sure exactly what is going through her head right now...If I still want to work things out with her, not quite sure how I need to handle her from here on out...
 

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Originally posted by Mikeman!
Update(for those who are interested):
Feels good to have the ball in my court, I can actually go without thinking about her every 1/2 hour now knowing that she's tried to get ahold of me.
WOW your making progess, you can live almost 30 minutes of your life w/out her. I think this guy should be the AFC poster child. Honestly I can't recall anyone being more AFC than him. Lets start a poll.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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