You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ivvan said:Give her space. She'll be back
eikk008822 said:Hi everyone, there has been this one girl who things have been going really well with but recently I feel as if the attraction is sliding a bit and moving into the LJBF category...any help on how to rekindle the attraction would be great!
in a typical situation I would but i'm not really that interested in getting laid right off. I just legitimately enjoy spending time with her. potential long-term relationship material? yes.Kbomb said:It is slowing down because you haven't made any sexual moves yet. You need to get on that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No. Treat all chicks the same. Make a move and escalate, girls LIKE shexx - you won't get an ltr without it but you will get LJBF.eikk008822 said:in a typical situation I would but i'm not really that interested in getting laid right off. I just legitimately enjoy spending time with her. potential long-term relationship material? yes.
eikk008822 said:in a typical situation I would but i'm not really that interested in getting laid right off. I just legitimately enjoy spending time with her. potential long-term relationship material? yes.