"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Regarding no contact - Do you prefer ignoring her or letting her know you're busy?

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I took her out and showed her a great time, now I want to try NC, should I completely cut off contact or let her know I'm busy with things/other girls/people when she texts/calls me?

Thanks
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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NobodyCares1

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why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
 
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NobodyCares1 said:
why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
 

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we're practically on the same boat.

www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197070

but since I don't see her everyday and she's not in any of my social circles, I literally don't have to do anything. what I would do is not do/initiate anything until she contacts me, even then I would only be cordial and not as enthusiastic as before. If I bump into her, I'll just say hi and go on...just as I would any acquaintance I had in the past
 

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Your playing games

Get another plate spinning and or start working on aquiring new plates

disreguard this plate
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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RustleYourJimmies said:
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
Good idea. And then after she stops texting you for a few months, you text her back mysteriously "Sorry. I've been busy."

Very alpha. She'll be wet as a thunder storm.
 

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RustleYourJimmies said:
she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her
If she doesn't like you, how are you ignoring her?

Never understood no contact. If the girl is wasting hours of your time on the phone, be polite and put a stop to it. If the girl has a boyfriend and needs her ego stroked by you, be polite and put a stop to it. Unless she insults you or puts you down, there is no reason to go NC.

NC actually shows you care and are emotionally involved...this girl can't play me! I'll show her by not acknowledging her! Then she'll think I'll sleeping with the hottest girls as I'm too busy to answer her calls and she will suddenly fall in love with me!

Yeah really.
 

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In the dating game NC assumes that she is interested in you. You give her attention and show her a great time. Once attention is withdrawn, she will start craving and show you more interest. He who cares less, wins.

In breakups, NC allows you to become emotionally detached and move on. Sure it will make the ex frustrated and reach out to you. It is up to your whether to continue a broken relationship or find someone better.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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