Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Regarding no contact - Do you prefer ignoring her or letting her know you're busy?

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I took her out and showed her a great time, now I want to try NC, should I completely cut off contact or let her know I'm busy with things/other girls/people when she texts/calls me?

Thanks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NobodyCares1

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why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
 
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NobodyCares1 said:
why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
 

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we're practically on the same boat.

www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197070

but since I don't see her everyday and she's not in any of my social circles, I literally don't have to do anything. what I would do is not do/initiate anything until she contacts me, even then I would only be cordial and not as enthusiastic as before. If I bump into her, I'll just say hi and go on...just as I would any acquaintance I had in the past
 

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Your playing games

Get another plate spinning and or start working on aquiring new plates

disreguard this plate
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mantis Toboggan

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RustleYourJimmies said:
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
Good idea. And then after she stops texting you for a few months, you text her back mysteriously "Sorry. I've been busy."

Very alpha. She'll be wet as a thunder storm.
 

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RustleYourJimmies said:
she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her
If she doesn't like you, how are you ignoring her?

Never understood no contact. If the girl is wasting hours of your time on the phone, be polite and put a stop to it. If the girl has a boyfriend and needs her ego stroked by you, be polite and put a stop to it. Unless she insults you or puts you down, there is no reason to go NC.

NC actually shows you care and are emotionally involved...this girl can't play me! I'll show her by not acknowledging her! Then she'll think I'll sleeping with the hottest girls as I'm too busy to answer her calls and she will suddenly fall in love with me!

Yeah really.
 

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In the dating game NC assumes that she is interested in you. You give her attention and show her a great time. Once attention is withdrawn, she will start craving and show you more interest. He who cares less, wins.

In breakups, NC allows you to become emotionally detached and move on. Sure it will make the ex frustrated and reach out to you. It is up to your whether to continue a broken relationship or find someone better.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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