"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Regarding no contact - Do you prefer ignoring her or letting her know you're busy?

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I took her out and showed her a great time, now I want to try NC, should I completely cut off contact or let her know I'm busy with things/other girls/people when she texts/calls me?

Thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NobodyCares1

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why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
 
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NobodyCares1 said:
why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
 

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we're practically on the same boat.

www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197070

but since I don't see her everyday and she's not in any of my social circles, I literally don't have to do anything. what I would do is not do/initiate anything until she contacts me, even then I would only be cordial and not as enthusiastic as before. If I bump into her, I'll just say hi and go on...just as I would any acquaintance I had in the past
 

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Your playing games

Get another plate spinning and or start working on aquiring new plates

disreguard this plate
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RustleYourJimmies said:
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
Good idea. And then after she stops texting you for a few months, you text her back mysteriously "Sorry. I've been busy."

Very alpha. She'll be wet as a thunder storm.
 

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RustleYourJimmies said:
she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her
If she doesn't like you, how are you ignoring her?

Never understood no contact. If the girl is wasting hours of your time on the phone, be polite and put a stop to it. If the girl has a boyfriend and needs her ego stroked by you, be polite and put a stop to it. Unless she insults you or puts you down, there is no reason to go NC.

NC actually shows you care and are emotionally involved...this girl can't play me! I'll show her by not acknowledging her! Then she'll think I'll sleeping with the hottest girls as I'm too busy to answer her calls and she will suddenly fall in love with me!

Yeah really.
 

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In the dating game NC assumes that she is interested in you. You give her attention and show her a great time. Once attention is withdrawn, she will start craving and show you more interest. He who cares less, wins.

In breakups, NC allows you to become emotionally detached and move on. Sure it will make the ex frustrated and reach out to you. It is up to your whether to continue a broken relationship or find someone better.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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