"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Regarding no contact - Do you prefer ignoring her or letting her know you're busy?

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I took her out and showed her a great time, now I want to try NC, should I completely cut off contact or let her know I'm busy with things/other girls/people when she texts/calls me?

Thanks
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
 
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NobodyCares1 said:
why do you want to go NC on her after a great date anyway? NC is supposed to punish her after she's done something you didn't like... don't go NC... just take your time to reply to her texts and stuff... but to answer your question when I go no contact I ignore her because she has to realise that she shouldn't do the thing she did...
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
 

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we're practically on the same boat.

www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197070

but since I don't see her everyday and she's not in any of my social circles, I literally don't have to do anything. what I would do is not do/initiate anything until she contacts me, even then I would only be cordial and not as enthusiastic as before. If I bump into her, I'll just say hi and go on...just as I would any acquaintance I had in the past
 

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Your playing games

Get another plate spinning and or start working on aquiring new plates

disreguard this plate
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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RustleYourJimmies said:
I skimped out on the details lol, but basically she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her, just experimenting here
Good idea. And then after she stops texting you for a few months, you text her back mysteriously "Sorry. I've been busy."

Very alpha. She'll be wet as a thunder storm.
 

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RustleYourJimmies said:
she led me on and made me think she liked me, turns out she doesnt. I just want to see what will happen if I ignore her
If she doesn't like you, how are you ignoring her?

Never understood no contact. If the girl is wasting hours of your time on the phone, be polite and put a stop to it. If the girl has a boyfriend and needs her ego stroked by you, be polite and put a stop to it. Unless she insults you or puts you down, there is no reason to go NC.

NC actually shows you care and are emotionally involved...this girl can't play me! I'll show her by not acknowledging her! Then she'll think I'll sleeping with the hottest girls as I'm too busy to answer her calls and she will suddenly fall in love with me!

Yeah really.
 

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In the dating game NC assumes that she is interested in you. You give her attention and show her a great time. Once attention is withdrawn, she will start craving and show you more interest. He who cares less, wins.

In breakups, NC allows you to become emotionally detached and move on. Sure it will make the ex frustrated and reach out to you. It is up to your whether to continue a broken relationship or find someone better.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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