Cerwin Vega
Master Don Juan
Forget it.
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
By you saying they will, you're effectively leaving guys with a countdown clock in their head running paranoid. It's stupid and wrong. Being realistic is saying "given the wrong/right set of circumstances the girl I'm seeing could be seriously tempted into straying," this is why you don't date girls who aren't ready to leave the party life behind and act like they're in a relationship. It's about recognising a girl's character. Don't take offence by what I said but I just think you have a lot to learn.CerwinVegaFan said:I'm not bitter, I'm realistic. Telling an afc that all women are capable of cheating is weak, "oh OK I'll do my best", he then gets cheated on and "WHAT THE **** GUYS I DIDN'T KNOW THAT YOU REALLY MEAN IT".
be prepared for everything.
Lol where did I say that? I said all girls were capable of cheating, I don't think there are any immune from it if you stick them in certain circumstances. But you want to be with the girls who understand this themselves and don't go out and get drunk, who don't meet up with guys one on one and don't let men's flirting get past a certain point and shut it down quickly. You've just made out that all girls have the same way of doing things and they don't. I'm on the verge of a relationship and this girl is hot but she's given up going out and getting drunk, along with some other things because she wants to be with me and she's showing me that in her actions.CerwinVegaFan said:If you want to argue about the way I wrote it, you're more than welcome to do it, but please enough with the Bulls hit "not all girls are like this".
Yeah and that swings both ways, don't lose sight of that.CerwinVegaFan said:You don't know the true nature of a girl, Ever.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.