"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Red marks from squats
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
bigforearms
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You can pad the bar or you can lower the weight. Really, what you should be doing is not worrying about it. Padding the bar is for pussies.
Soshyopathe
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DIESEL
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Word. Your traps ARE YOUR PADS.Originally posted by bigforearms
If you're lifting heavy, there's nothing that'll prevent the red marks (except maybe a pad, but again, I dont' recommend it). They're just a fact of squatting. Suck it up.
Amorican23
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DJ de Florida
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A pad changes the weight distrubtion on your body. Red marks are normal. But make sure you don't feel pain. Read up on how the powerlifters hold the bar. There are so many things that people don't understand in squatting (like blocking).......Originally posted by bigforearms
If you're lifting heavy, there's nothing that'll prevent the red marks (except maybe a pad, but again, I dont' recommend it). They're just a fact of squatting. Suck it up.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Originally posted by bigforearms
Padding the bar is for pussies.
Haha.
Yes, once you get used to it, the marks won't happen anymore. Don't even worry about it. Unless you are getting them from squating light weight.
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Originally posted by DJ de Florida
A pad changes the weight distrubtion on your body. Red marks are normal. But make sure you don't feel pain. Read up on how the powerlifters hold the bar. There are so many things that people don't understand in squatting (like blocking).......
I AM a powerlifter (and a decent one at that). And if I'm going heavy, I get red marks. There's no way to avoid them.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJ de Florida
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Right. I wasn't implying powerlifters don't get red marks, but that the lifters know their shyt on proper techniques........Originally posted by bigforearms
I AM a powerlifter (and a decent one at that). And if I'm going heavy, I get red marks. There's no way to avoid them.