"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Red marks from squats
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
bigforearms
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You can pad the bar or you can lower the weight. Really, what you should be doing is not worrying about it. Padding the bar is for pussies.
Soshyopathe
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DIESEL
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Word. Your traps ARE YOUR PADS.Originally posted by bigforearms
If you're lifting heavy, there's nothing that'll prevent the red marks (except maybe a pad, but again, I dont' recommend it). They're just a fact of squatting. Suck it up.
Amorican23
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DJ de Florida
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A pad changes the weight distrubtion on your body. Red marks are normal. But make sure you don't feel pain. Read up on how the powerlifters hold the bar. There are so many things that people don't understand in squatting (like blocking).......Originally posted by bigforearms
If you're lifting heavy, there's nothing that'll prevent the red marks (except maybe a pad, but again, I dont' recommend it). They're just a fact of squatting. Suck it up.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Originally posted by bigforearms
Padding the bar is for pussies.
Haha.
Yes, once you get used to it, the marks won't happen anymore. Don't even worry about it. Unless you are getting them from squating light weight.
bigforearms
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Originally posted by DJ de Florida
A pad changes the weight distrubtion on your body. Red marks are normal. But make sure you don't feel pain. Read up on how the powerlifters hold the bar. There are so many things that people don't understand in squatting (like blocking).......
I AM a powerlifter (and a decent one at that). And if I'm going heavy, I get red marks. There's no way to avoid them.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJ de Florida
Master Don Juan
Right. I wasn't implying powerlifters don't get red marks, but that the lifters know their shyt on proper techniques........Originally posted by bigforearms
I AM a powerlifter (and a decent one at that). And if I'm going heavy, I get red marks. There's no way to avoid them.