This one girl and I had a date set up tonight to go ice skating. This would be our second (The first one went very well). She left a message on my voicemail today while I was in class, saying she felt really crappy, that she was on her period, and that she wouldn't be able to do it today. She said that maybe we could try it tomorrow, but that she doesn't know if she's going to be feeling well tomorrow either. Her voice sounded pretty sincere, but I don't know, women can be good actors. How would a true DJ handle this, I missed the section in the bible on periods :nervous: .
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Red Flag - Unsure how to handle it
- Thread starter paulwis
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Give her the benefit of the doubt this time and let her reschedule. If it happens again, next her.
BTW, she mentioned that she was on her period? If she is not bullshyting, mark the date down on a calender. This 28 day cycle will be helpful later down the road.
BTW, she mentioned that she was on her period? If she is not bullshyting, mark the date down on a calender. This 28 day cycle will be helpful later down the road.
TheMaestro87
Don Juan
The fact that she's interested in rescheduling it is a good sign. Like Blackmm said, give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe tell her it's too bad because all that fun with you would have made her feel better, then just wait for the next date.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
Blackmm said:
DIDDO
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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