Recovering

[RyGuyFly]

Hi guys,

I just stumbled across this forum.

My backstory is that I come from a highly controlling religion that was very anti-sex anti-dating. My mother was controlling and suffocating and I recieved a lot of verbal abuse relating to dating and girls etc. My father was largely absent.

I had never been on a date until I was 29. Im 30 now. I feel so lost and discouraged. I feel like I won't ever learn how to find or date women I'm attracted to. I don't often feel attractive but objectively I think I'm ok looking. Thinking about this I feel so depressed.

Due to my upbringing i suffered extreme low self esteem and self worth. I'm looking for some guidance and support. Is this the right place? In the real world I feel like no one is supportive.

Where should I start even?

 

[wifehunter]

1. Make sure negative and controlling people are out of your life. OUT!!!

2. Start building....hobbies, passions, career, goals, etc.

step #1 is crucial to progressing to step #2

 

[fanatic22]

Hey dude, start by seeing a therapist, they can be very helpful in unwinding deeply rooted problems. The good news is that your life will only get better from here on out. I'd read the DJ Bible and Book of Pook to avoid early dating mistakes. Relax and don't take it too seriously - dating is fun and you'll get into the swing of it soon enough.

 

[RyGuyFly]

Hey dude, start by seeing a therapist, they can be very helpful in unwinding deeply rooted problems. The good news is that your life will only get better from here on out. I'd read the DJ Bible and Book of Pook to avoid early dating mistakes. Relax and don't take it too seriously - dating is fun and you'll get into the swing of it soon enough.

Already have but as far as women and dating they are useless. I escaped the religion in late 2015. Went on my first date in early 2016. Any suggestions people give seem to be totally out of touch with reality.

 

[wifehunter]

Hey dude, start by seeing a therapist, they can be very helpful in unwinding deeply rooted problems. The good news is that your life will only get better from here on out. I'd read the DJ Bible and Book of Pook to avoid early dating mistakes. Relax and don't take it too seriously - dating is fun and you'll get into the swing of it soon enough.

Therapists often have their own issues, so take care when selecting one.

 

[lizardking82]

He doesn't need to see any therapist. He needs to get out in the real world and eat some dirt. That will teach him better than any kind of therapist.

 

[Murk]

What country do you live? What’s your living and employment situation?

 

[RyGuyFly]

What country do you live? What’s your living and employment situation?

USA. I lost my job but I managed to get a new one. I'm fairly low income. I live by myself. I'm also a student.