May be hard to believe but, there are quite a few girls interested in me at school, ive said this before, its a good confidence boost too. Anyhow my close friend for 4-5 years is starting to like me, how can i make it obvious to her that im not interested in her?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Really close friend starts to like me
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
stop flirting with her
and i just spilled soup on my keyboard
and i just spilled soup on my keyboard
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ask her for advice on other girls...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
You dont flirt with her and yet shes coming on to you.
I dunno what to say. Keep giving her the red light and she will stop coming onto you and supress those feelings inside her like normal healthy people do.
I dunno what to say. Keep giving her the red light and she will stop coming onto you and supress those feelings inside her like normal healthy people do.
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"Even if you were the last girl on earth."
Hahah I love that one.
Hahah I love that one.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
LMAO!!john paul said:
Yeah just keep hinting about other girls and she'll soon lose interest.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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This emoticon belongs back in your sig HandyAndy. :rock:
It is totally you and I mean this as a compliment.
Anyway though if you are really not interested in her and she is not attractive at all just friendzone her like chicks do regularly to their male AFC friends who are interested in them.
Just keep treating her like a friend as others have said and put up stop signs directly or indirectly as she tries to advance on ya.
It is totally you and I mean this as a compliment.
Anyway though if you are really not interested in her and she is not attractive at all just friendzone her like chicks do regularly to their male AFC friends who are interested in them.
Just keep treating her like a friend as others have said and put up stop signs directly or indirectly as she tries to advance on ya.
Isn't it weird and ironic how we spend all this time trying to make ourselves better or be someone else around girls we are attracted to, then girls we are friends with like us.
Wouldn't it be great if we could just be ourselves purely around everyone without any effort?
Wouldn't it be great if we could just be ourselves purely around everyone without any effort?