May be hard to believe but, there are quite a few girls interested in me at school, ive said this before, its a good confidence boost too. Anyhow my close friend for 4-5 years is starting to like me, how can i make it obvious to her that im not interested in her?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Really close friend starts to like me
- Thread starter HandyAndy
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
stop flirting with her
and i just spilled soup on my keyboard
and i just spilled soup on my keyboard
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ask her for advice on other girls...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
You dont flirt with her and yet shes coming on to you.
I dunno what to say. Keep giving her the red light and she will stop coming onto you and supress those feelings inside her like normal healthy people do.
I dunno what to say. Keep giving her the red light and she will stop coming onto you and supress those feelings inside her like normal healthy people do.
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"Even if you were the last girl on earth."
Hahah I love that one.
Hahah I love that one.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
LMAO!!john paul said:
Yeah just keep hinting about other girls and she'll soon lose interest.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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This emoticon belongs back in your sig HandyAndy. :rock:
It is totally you and I mean this as a compliment.
Anyway though if you are really not interested in her and she is not attractive at all just friendzone her like chicks do regularly to their male AFC friends who are interested in them.
Just keep treating her like a friend as others have said and put up stop signs directly or indirectly as she tries to advance on ya.
It is totally you and I mean this as a compliment.
Anyway though if you are really not interested in her and she is not attractive at all just friendzone her like chicks do regularly to their male AFC friends who are interested in them.
Just keep treating her like a friend as others have said and put up stop signs directly or indirectly as she tries to advance on ya.
Isn't it weird and ironic how we spend all this time trying to make ourselves better or be someone else around girls we are attracted to, then girls we are friends with like us.
Wouldn't it be great if we could just be ourselves purely around everyone without any effort?
Wouldn't it be great if we could just be ourselves purely around everyone without any effort?