May be hard to believe but, there are quite a few girls interested in me at school, ive said this before, its a good confidence boost too. Anyhow my close friend for 4-5 years is starting to like me, how can i make it obvious to her that im not interested in her?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Really close friend starts to like me
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
stop flirting with her
and i just spilled soup on my keyboard
and i just spilled soup on my keyboard
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
ask her for advice on other girls...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
john paul
Senior Don Juan
You dont flirt with her and yet shes coming on to you.
I dunno what to say. Keep giving her the red light and she will stop coming onto you and supress those feelings inside her like normal healthy people do.
I dunno what to say. Keep giving her the red light and she will stop coming onto you and supress those feelings inside her like normal healthy people do.
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"Even if you were the last girl on earth."
Hahah I love that one.
Hahah I love that one.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
LMAO!!john paul said:
Yeah just keep hinting about other girls and she'll soon lose interest.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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This emoticon belongs back in your sig HandyAndy. :rock:
It is totally you and I mean this as a compliment.
Anyway though if you are really not interested in her and she is not attractive at all just friendzone her like chicks do regularly to their male AFC friends who are interested in them.
Just keep treating her like a friend as others have said and put up stop signs directly or indirectly as she tries to advance on ya.
It is totally you and I mean this as a compliment.
Anyway though if you are really not interested in her and she is not attractive at all just friendzone her like chicks do regularly to their male AFC friends who are interested in them.
Just keep treating her like a friend as others have said and put up stop signs directly or indirectly as she tries to advance on ya.
Isn't it weird and ironic how we spend all this time trying to make ourselves better or be someone else around girls we are attracted to, then girls we are friends with like us.
Wouldn't it be great if we could just be ourselves purely around everyone without any effort?
Wouldn't it be great if we could just be ourselves purely around everyone without any effort?