Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
It's a premise similar to taking two steps forward then taking a step back. It's in the DJB.Babnik said:Explain push/pull in detail...I can't find it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It's a premise similar to taking two steps forward then taking a step back. It's in the DJB.Babnik said:Explain push/pull in detail...I can't find it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Link me!Francisco d'Anconia said:It's a premise similar to taking two steps forward then taking a step back. It's in the DJB.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Babnik said:Link me!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hasha, you guys are too funny -you think the more times that you use the word flame then that makes me a flamer -- are you trying to set precedent?lookyoung said:Honest question would u want advice from skip or advice from LMS? Who is more valuable to this website?
No...the actual article!Francisco d'Anconia said:
if everything is me regurgitating known information, then how bout we just shut down sosuave and keep the don juan bible open and thats it!Last Man Standing said:Hasha, you guys are too funny -you think the more times that you use the word flame then that makes me a flamer -- are you trying to set precedent?
Another post by lookyyoung that says nothing!!At least you are consistent!!
To even compare skippy to me is insulting to say the least -- why don't you read some threads out there and see my wise golden advice instead of being cheerleaders and flamers and trying to create fractions amongst the members!!
Skp does not give advice - he is a regurgitator of known information - a plagiarist!
He, as you, give no insight or wisdom - no original thinking whatsoever!!! He is just a childish name caller as you and Daniel are as well!!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.