"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Black Widow Void

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Thanks Atom Smasher. As mentioned in my initial posting, I recognize that this isn't my forum and I am under no entitlement to any explanation.

When I notice a new forum member, I attempt to make them feel welcomed .. even going as far as to counter-attack older smug-appearing members that do their "chest thumping" (toward a new member) . This being a new member's first experience, I want them to feel welcomed and to return.

Again, I realize that this isn't my forum. With this being expressed, it is my hope that all mods reading this will practice the same scrutiny toward the chest-thumpers pouncing on new members... as they have toward the old-timers engaging in political discussion.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I’ve been calling out old and mid-timers for years for treating new members harshly. They usually back off when I do, but it is troubling that the phenomenon exists. There definitely comes a time for some “tough love” when a noob proves he’s just here to waste everybody’s time, but every new guy should be extended a welcoming hand when he arrives and as he struggles to get his head on straight.
 

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I don't remember the need for a political discussion post when I was more active a few years ago; was this put up due to the 2016 election?
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The consensus -- at least, from those who responded -- claim we want "loyal companionship" above all else.
Lol, ask that in the general forum. Anyway, a lot of guys want "loyal companionship", but don't think they can get it from today's women in today's world, so they default to spinning plates. And that doesn't include the guys who just want multiple sexual partners in the first place.
 

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And oh! Ye of little Faith! Ye who call the best ideas the worst! Some people are backwards.
Speaking of backwards, this thread has gone backwards also and totally off topic now.
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