Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Thanks Atom Smasher. As mentioned in my initial posting, I recognize that this isn't my forum and I am under no entitlement to any explanation.

When I notice a new forum member, I attempt to make them feel welcomed .. even going as far as to counter-attack older smug-appearing members that do their "chest thumping" (toward a new member) . This being a new member's first experience, I want them to feel welcomed and to return.

Again, I realize that this isn't my forum. With this being expressed, it is my hope that all mods reading this will practice the same scrutiny toward the chest-thumpers pouncing on new members... as they have toward the old-timers engaging in political discussion.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I’ve been calling out old and mid-timers for years for treating new members harshly. They usually back off when I do, but it is troubling that the phenomenon exists. There definitely comes a time for some “tough love” when a noob proves he’s just here to waste everybody’s time, but every new guy should be extended a welcoming hand when he arrives and as he struggles to get his head on straight.
 

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I don't remember the need for a political discussion post when I was more active a few years ago; was this put up due to the 2016 election?
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The consensus -- at least, from those who responded -- claim we want "loyal companionship" above all else.
Lol, ask that in the general forum. Anyway, a lot of guys want "loyal companionship", but don't think they can get it from today's women in today's world, so they default to spinning plates. And that doesn't include the guys who just want multiple sexual partners in the first place.
 

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And oh! Ye of little Faith! Ye who call the best ideas the worst! Some people are backwards.
Speaking of backwards, this thread has gone backwards also and totally off topic now.
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