"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks Atom Smasher. As mentioned in my initial posting, I recognize that this isn't my forum and I am under no entitlement to any explanation.

When I notice a new forum member, I attempt to make them feel welcomed .. even going as far as to counter-attack older smug-appearing members that do their "chest thumping" (toward a new member) . This being a new member's first experience, I want them to feel welcomed and to return.

Again, I realize that this isn't my forum. With this being expressed, it is my hope that all mods reading this will practice the same scrutiny toward the chest-thumpers pouncing on new members... as they have toward the old-timers engaging in political discussion.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I’ve been calling out old and mid-timers for years for treating new members harshly. They usually back off when I do, but it is troubling that the phenomenon exists. There definitely comes a time for some “tough love” when a noob proves he’s just here to waste everybody’s time, but every new guy should be extended a welcoming hand when he arrives and as he struggles to get his head on straight.
 

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I don't remember the need for a political discussion post when I was more active a few years ago; was this put up due to the 2016 election?
 

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The consensus -- at least, from those who responded -- claim we want "loyal companionship" above all else.
Lol, ask that in the general forum. Anyway, a lot of guys want "loyal companionship", but don't think they can get it from today's women in today's world, so they default to spinning plates. And that doesn't include the guys who just want multiple sexual partners in the first place.
 

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And oh! Ye of little Faith! Ye who call the best ideas the worst! Some people are backwards.
Speaking of backwards, this thread has gone backwards also and totally off topic now.
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