How do you figure that?If they are wearing black panties, they're planning on having sex with you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you figure that?If they are wearing black panties, they're planning on having sex with you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Only if she already is attracted to you. Or only if she is aware that your value is well higher than hers.When you meet a woman for the first time you should spend a bit of time agreeing with every damn thing she says. You have to go the comfort stage to get to the attraction stage.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Incorrect.Only if she already is attracted to you. Or only if she is aware that your value is well higher than hers.
Interesting you mention burgers. I'd rather wait for a fine meal than get that fast food instantly.Second chances occur (or should occur) long before a man goes NC.
NC happens when its clear that a particular woman/plate is NOT going to give you what you want on your terms. Men need to have standards. If you walk into a restaurant expecting a burger and they say: "Sorry no burgers today" you will leave and get your burger somewhere else. You will not make excuses for the restaurant and sit around hoping they will find a way to give you a burger.
how does that fit into the metaphor?Interesting you mention burgers. I'd rather wait for a fine meal than get that fast food instantly.
It was more free association. Burger.. standards....how does that fit into the metaphor?
how do you know if you're waiting because the "fine meal" takes longer to cook or if the cook is just lazy and dragging his feet? how do you know that it's a fine meal at all?It was more free association. Burger.. standards....
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
By the normal and established rules of fine-dining. Does it have a good decor and atmosphere, how does the place hold itself, and advertise itself, what kind of customer is attracted? But no doubt, the proof is in the pudding.how do you know if you're waiting because the "fine meal" takes longer to cook or if the cook is just lazy and dragging his feet? how do you know that it's a fine meal at all?
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I have never met up with a woman wearing black panties that didn't have sex with me. It's a real thing that women do, ask them.How do you figure that?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That's true. I learned that the hard way back on my early days of approaching. I approached a chick from behind (noticed some IOIs, it seemed like that) and touched her on the back and said "hi". She got scared and called me a creep. I immediately left and never did that again.Non verbal success:
Approach:
When approaching a girl, approach her from the front or from the side. Let her see you coming. That gives the brain enough time to recognize and prepare.
Do not approach someone from behind. It automatically puts them on the defensive.
If you have to come from behind, make a sound, call their name, make your presence known for them to turn around.
Meet:
Whenever you meet (with) a girl, a smile puts her at ease. Use it at your own discretion.
Want to put her on edge for bad behavior, don't smile.
Want to make her puddy for a few seconds, smile the moment you see her coming.
I have never met up with a woman wearing black panties that didn't have sex with me. It's a real thing that women do, ask them.
Yes, I'll have the Ribeye medium rare extra crispy, with garlic mash potatoes, and green beans.Interesting you mention burgers. I'd rather wait for a fine meal than get that fast food instantly.
I really like this about the drink by your side. That's a totally boss move. Nice!I'll add that you should always carry your drink waist high, at your side.
Holding in front of your chest, like most guys, is a defensive posture. Also, you look like everyone else when you do that.
If standing at a bar or a table, sit your drink on the table. Don't hold it.
Be different!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.