How do you figure that?If they are wearing black panties, they're planning on having sex with you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do you figure that?If they are wearing black panties, they're planning on having sex with you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Only if she already is attracted to you. Or only if she is aware that your value is well higher than hers.When you meet a woman for the first time you should spend a bit of time agreeing with every damn thing she says. You have to go the comfort stage to get to the attraction stage.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Incorrect.Only if she already is attracted to you. Or only if she is aware that your value is well higher than hers.
Interesting you mention burgers. I'd rather wait for a fine meal than get that fast food instantly.Second chances occur (or should occur) long before a man goes NC.
NC happens when its clear that a particular woman/plate is NOT going to give you what you want on your terms. Men need to have standards. If you walk into a restaurant expecting a burger and they say: "Sorry no burgers today" you will leave and get your burger somewhere else. You will not make excuses for the restaurant and sit around hoping they will find a way to give you a burger.
how does that fit into the metaphor?Interesting you mention burgers. I'd rather wait for a fine meal than get that fast food instantly.
It was more free association. Burger.. standards....how does that fit into the metaphor?
how do you know if you're waiting because the "fine meal" takes longer to cook or if the cook is just lazy and dragging his feet? how do you know that it's a fine meal at all?It was more free association. Burger.. standards....
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
By the normal and established rules of fine-dining. Does it have a good decor and atmosphere, how does the place hold itself, and advertise itself, what kind of customer is attracted? But no doubt, the proof is in the pudding.how do you know if you're waiting because the "fine meal" takes longer to cook or if the cook is just lazy and dragging his feet? how do you know that it's a fine meal at all?
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I have never met up with a woman wearing black panties that didn't have sex with me. It's a real thing that women do, ask them.How do you figure that?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's true. I learned that the hard way back on my early days of approaching. I approached a chick from behind (noticed some IOIs, it seemed like that) and touched her on the back and said "hi". She got scared and called me a creep. I immediately left and never did that again.Non verbal success:
Approach:
When approaching a girl, approach her from the front or from the side. Let her see you coming. That gives the brain enough time to recognize and prepare.
Do not approach someone from behind. It automatically puts them on the defensive.
If you have to come from behind, make a sound, call their name, make your presence known for them to turn around.
Meet:
Whenever you meet (with) a girl, a smile puts her at ease. Use it at your own discretion.
Want to put her on edge for bad behavior, don't smile.
Want to make her puddy for a few seconds, smile the moment you see her coming.
I have never met up with a woman wearing black panties that didn't have sex with me. It's a real thing that women do, ask them.
Yes, I'll have the Ribeye medium rare extra crispy, with garlic mash potatoes, and green beans.Interesting you mention burgers. I'd rather wait for a fine meal than get that fast food instantly.
I really like this about the drink by your side. That's a totally boss move. Nice!I'll add that you should always carry your drink waist high, at your side.
Holding in front of your chest, like most guys, is a defensive posture. Also, you look like everyone else when you do that.
If standing at a bar or a table, sit your drink on the table. Don't hold it.
Be different!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.