"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quick video on CONFIDENCE. By a woman. She makes some good points.

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I didn't realize she was articulating words. I was too busy visualizing taking a shot out of her dimple.
 

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narcissist said:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A08amaHaqvQ


I think everything she says is spot on.

What do you guys think?
Everything is spot-on for a male. It's too bad that females are trying to become men. Confidence is not a female trait. It never has been and never will be.

I would call her confidence "crassness" ("I could just jizz everywhere", she says), complete with imitating male jerking.

I look for confidence in femininity, not fake male-like confidence.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Atom Smasher said:
Everything is spot-on for a male. It's too bad that females are trying to become men. Confidence is not a female trait. It never has been and never will be.

I would call her confidence "crassness" ("I could just jizz everywhere", she says), complete with imitating male jerking.

I look for confidence in femininity, not fake male-like confidence.
This is such a good point. Her points are very valid... for MEN. I don't have any appreciation for women that want to be like men (feminism). I don't find the 'strong, independent woman' movement attractive in any way. I would much rather drink and socialize with friends and remain single. WOMEN being feminine is attractive and confident. MEN being assertive and dominant is confident. Double standards are a thing, because men and women aren't the same.
 

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I've got to say, the "slow it down" part is the closest thing I've ever found to "instant" confidence. Every time I crank down my movements and speech, everything else seems to click. Video was a good reminder of that.
 
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