"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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There's this girl I've been talking to for a month now (long story), but when I asked her to "hang out" alone with me she said "I'd rather be friends first" even though I get plenty of IOI's from this girl. She also never had a boyfriend or never went out with a guy, and never even got hit on before in her life. The thing I don't get is, that whenever she's around her guy friends, she holds hands with them and walks with them, holds their arm while standing next to them, and hugs them. I mean she does this with pretty much all of her guy friends rather than just one guy. So I'm wondering what's going on here and how I should approach this situation?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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give up on her. it's pretty clear she isn't interested in anyone in particular. and you asked her to "hang out"? come on, man, you can do better than that.
 
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marinetti said:
give up on her. it's pretty clear she isn't interested in anyone in particular. and you asked her to "hang out"? come on, man, you can do better than that.
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That was just a summary of what happened lol. She also claims she's not mature enough to be anything more than friends with anyone. I just don't get the clear IOI's she gives to me and seems like she wants to get involved with her guy friends.
 
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although I don't want to try to psychoanalyze her here, I've known many girls like that. you're wasting your time.
 
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"I'd rather be friends" doesn't mean jack.

go out with her show her a good time and you'll be hitting it...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marinetti said:
although I don't want to try to psychoanalyze her here, I've known many girls like that. you're wasting your time.
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Well, I'd like to know why, because I've never met any girl who acted like that around their guy friends. I've seen flirting, but it's not just regular flirting, it's like they're actually in a relationship but they're not. And she wants to put me in that "zone" I guess. I'm not quite sure how to approach this, even though I'm sure she is worth pursuing as you said.
 
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I just want you to know that a girl gave me the LJBF line a few days ago and last night she was sucking my d1ck.
 
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I just want you to know that a girl gave me the LJBF line a few days ago and last night she was sucking my d1ck.
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Yeah, some of them have the "anti-slvt" defense but still give you IOI's, and this girl is giving me a lot of IOI's, but I'm thinking she's just being a tease/flirt. She is FINE and I'd like to get with her, but I do have other options, so like I said, I dunno if this is worth pursuing or not.
 
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I've met the type, If she's as attractive as you say then I'm guessing she's got one guy that she's really interested in. Her and said male are probably not in an actual 'declared' relationship (possibly due to life circumstances such as different colleges) but have confessed each other's love. If I were in your situation I'd probably not carry expectations, and just try to have fun with the situation. Try to confuse her, give her signs that you're really into her, and then do a 180 (the best way to do this is by giving the same signs to another girl in her presence). Don't be afraid to play around with the situation, somethings got to change anyways, cause as it's going right now you're probably just another guy to her. Prove her wrong.
 
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nicknle said:
I've met the type, If she's as attractive as you say then I'm guessing she's got one guy that she's really interested in. Her and said male are probably not in an actual 'declared' relationship (possibly due to life circumstances such as different colleges) but have confessed each other's love. If I were in your situation I'd probably not carry expectations, and just try to have fun with the situation. Try to confuse her, give her signs that you're really into her, and then do a 180 (the best way to do this is by giving the same signs to another girl in her presence). Don't be afraid to play around with the situation, somethings got to change anyways, cause as it's going right now you're probably just another guy to her. Prove her wrong.
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Well I'm pretty young and I'm in college right now so it's not exactly farfetched to believe she never had a boyfriend before, depending on the area she grew up in. And like I said, she flirts around with multiple guy friends lol. But I wouldn't mind playing around with the stiuation now.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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persue her bro. what have you got to lose? dont give up too easy, if you want something you gotta put in the work!!! alot of girls are not going to like you right away until they get to know you.
 
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