"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

question

C

ChocolateVanilla

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 5, 2007
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
There's this girl I've been talking to for a month now (long story), but when I asked her to "hang out" alone with me she said "I'd rather be friends first" even though I get plenty of IOI's from this girl. She also never had a boyfriend or never went out with a guy, and never even got hit on before in her life. The thing I don't get is, that whenever she's around her guy friends, she holds hands with them and walks with them, holds their arm while standing next to them, and hugs them. I mean she does this with pretty much all of her guy friends rather than just one guy. So I'm wondering what's going on here and how I should approach this situation?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

M

marinetti

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2007
Messages
211
Reaction score
5
give up on her. it's pretty clear she isn't interested in anyone in particular. and you asked her to "hang out"? come on, man, you can do better than that.
 
C

ChocolateVanilla

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 5, 2007
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
marinetti said:
give up on her. it's pretty clear she isn't interested in anyone in particular. and you asked her to "hang out"? come on, man, you can do better than that.
Click to expand...
That was just a summary of what happened lol. She also claims she's not mature enough to be anything more than friends with anyone. I just don't get the clear IOI's she gives to me and seems like she wants to get involved with her guy friends.
 
M

marinetti

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2007
Messages
211
Reaction score
5
although I don't want to try to psychoanalyze her here, I've known many girls like that. you're wasting your time.
 
M

My Name is Nobody

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2007
Messages
2,153
Reaction score
13
"I'd rather be friends" doesn't mean jack.

go out with her show her a good time and you'll be hitting it...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

C

ChocolateVanilla

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 5, 2007
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
marinetti said:
although I don't want to try to psychoanalyze her here, I've known many girls like that. you're wasting your time.
Click to expand...

Well, I'd like to know why, because I've never met any girl who acted like that around their guy friends. I've seen flirting, but it's not just regular flirting, it's like they're actually in a relationship but they're not. And she wants to put me in that "zone" I guess. I'm not quite sure how to approach this, even though I'm sure she is worth pursuing as you said.
 
M

My Name is Nobody

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2007
Messages
2,153
Reaction score
13
I just want you to know that a girl gave me the LJBF line a few days ago and last night she was sucking my d1ck.
 
C

ChocolateVanilla

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 5, 2007
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
My Name is Nobody said:
I just want you to know that a girl gave me the LJBF line a few days ago and last night she was sucking my d1ck.
Click to expand...

Yeah, some of them have the "anti-slvt" defense but still give you IOI's, and this girl is giving me a lot of IOI's, but I'm thinking she's just being a tease/flirt. She is FINE and I'd like to get with her, but I do have other options, so like I said, I dunno if this is worth pursuing or not.
 
N

nicknle

New Member
Joined
Sep 4, 2007
Messages
9
Reaction score
0
I've met the type, If she's as attractive as you say then I'm guessing she's got one guy that she's really interested in. Her and said male are probably not in an actual 'declared' relationship (possibly due to life circumstances such as different colleges) but have confessed each other's love. If I were in your situation I'd probably not carry expectations, and just try to have fun with the situation. Try to confuse her, give her signs that you're really into her, and then do a 180 (the best way to do this is by giving the same signs to another girl in her presence). Don't be afraid to play around with the situation, somethings got to change anyways, cause as it's going right now you're probably just another guy to her. Prove her wrong.
 
C

ChocolateVanilla

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 5, 2007
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
nicknle said:
I've met the type, If she's as attractive as you say then I'm guessing she's got one guy that she's really interested in. Her and said male are probably not in an actual 'declared' relationship (possibly due to life circumstances such as different colleges) but have confessed each other's love. If I were in your situation I'd probably not carry expectations, and just try to have fun with the situation. Try to confuse her, give her signs that you're really into her, and then do a 180 (the best way to do this is by giving the same signs to another girl in her presence). Don't be afraid to play around with the situation, somethings got to change anyways, cause as it's going right now you're probably just another guy to her. Prove her wrong.
Click to expand...

Well I'm pretty young and I'm in college right now so it's not exactly farfetched to believe she never had a boyfriend before, depending on the area she grew up in. And like I said, she flirts around with multiple guy friends lol. But I wouldn't mind playing around with the stiuation now.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Y

yama600rr

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 10, 2007
Messages
118
Reaction score
2
persue her bro. what have you got to lose? dont give up too easy, if you want something you gotta put in the work!!! alot of girls are not going to like you right away until they get to know you.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top