"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Question regarding online dating

ThinWhiteDuke

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Suppose she contacts you and her profile says she's looking for a guy making 100k+ per year when your profile clearly states that you make 50k per year. How to handle? thx
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by ThinWhiteDuke
Suppose she contacts you and her profile says she's looking for a guy making 100k+ per year when your profile clearly states that you make 50k per year. How to handle? thx
What does the rest of her profile say, the free form part? Is she only talks about doing grandious things that will cost a fortune you may have a money hound on your hands. If she doesn't, she may just feel that she is attracted by the qualitites that a man of means has. All you will need to do in that case is show her those qualities.

By the way, did she disclose how much she makes? Just curious because I've run into the same thing and I laugh that most of the time she doesn't say anything about her income. Hey! That could be used as a C/F opening email if that's the case! ;)
 

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No, she didn't post her income (thanks for the c+f idea...I'll run with it). She lists her favorite activities as travel, boating, volunteering and yoga/exercise.

Appreciate the advice.
 

ThinWhiteDuke

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If she just wants someone to finance her life then why e-mail a guy making 50k? :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ThinWhiteDuke

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Very true. Desperation does have it's own beauty :)
 
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