ThinWhiteDuke
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Suppose she contacts you and her profile says she's looking for a guy making 100k+ per year when your profile clearly states that you make 50k per year. How to handle? thx
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Question regarding online dating
- Thread starter ThinWhiteDuke
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What does the rest of her profile say, the free form part? Is she only talks about doing grandious things that will cost a fortune you may have a money hound on your hands. If she doesn't, she may just feel that she is attracted by the qualitites that a man of means has. All you will need to do in that case is show her those qualities.
By the way, did she disclose how much she makes? Just curious because I've run into the same thing and I laugh that most of the time she doesn't say anything about her income. Hey! That could be used as a C/F opening email if that's the case!
ThinWhiteDuke
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No, she didn't post her income (thanks for the c+f idea...I'll run with it). She lists her favorite activities as travel, boating, volunteering and yoga/exercise.
Appreciate the advice.
Appreciate the advice.
mcqueen207
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It means she wants someone to finance her life
ThinWhiteDuke
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If she just wants someone to finance her life then why e-mail a guy making 50k?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mcqueen207
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Cmon ...internet dating is all about Lowered Expectations
ThinWhiteDuke
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Very true. Desperation does have it's own beauty