ThinWhiteDuke
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Suppose she contacts you and her profile says she's looking for a guy making 100k+ per year when your profile clearly states that you make 50k per year. How to handle? thx
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Question regarding online dating
- Thread starter ThinWhiteDuke
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What does the rest of her profile say, the free form part? Is she only talks about doing grandious things that will cost a fortune you may have a money hound on your hands. If she doesn't, she may just feel that she is attracted by the qualitites that a man of means has. All you will need to do in that case is show her those qualities.
By the way, did she disclose how much she makes? Just curious because I've run into the same thing and I laugh that most of the time she doesn't say anything about her income. Hey! That could be used as a C/F opening email if that's the case!
ThinWhiteDuke
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No, she didn't post her income (thanks for the c+f idea...I'll run with it). She lists her favorite activities as travel, boating, volunteering and yoga/exercise.
Appreciate the advice.
Appreciate the advice.
mcqueen207
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It means she wants someone to finance her life
ThinWhiteDuke
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If she just wants someone to finance her life then why e-mail a guy making 50k?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mcqueen207
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Cmon ...internet dating is all about Lowered Expectations
ThinWhiteDuke
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Very true. Desperation does have it's own beauty