ThinWhiteDuke
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Suppose she contacts you and her profile says she's looking for a guy making 100k+ per year when your profile clearly states that you make 50k per year. How to handle? thx
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Question regarding online dating
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What does the rest of her profile say, the free form part? Is she only talks about doing grandious things that will cost a fortune you may have a money hound on your hands. If she doesn't, she may just feel that she is attracted by the qualitites that a man of means has. All you will need to do in that case is show her those qualities.
By the way, did she disclose how much she makes? Just curious because I've run into the same thing and I laugh that most of the time she doesn't say anything about her income. Hey! That could be used as a C/F opening email if that's the case!
ThinWhiteDuke
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No, she didn't post her income (thanks for the c+f idea...I'll run with it). She lists her favorite activities as travel, boating, volunteering and yoga/exercise.
Appreciate the advice.
Appreciate the advice.
mcqueen207
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It means she wants someone to finance her life
ThinWhiteDuke
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If she just wants someone to finance her life then why e-mail a guy making 50k?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mcqueen207
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Cmon ...internet dating is all about Lowered Expectations
ThinWhiteDuke
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Very true. Desperation does have it's own beauty