"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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QUESTION: is this a sh!t test?

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Friends with benefits chick meets ex.
Says she thinks she's super hot, and seems very much into me still.
Asks why I'm not with her (ex) or why I don't give her a second chance.

You guys think that's a sh!t test?
Maybe she was subtlety trying to see where I stand with her?

EDIT.

Sorry just to clarify. It was the FWB chick asking why I'm not with my ex or giving her a second chance. Obviously that's out of the question but this seems like a sh!t test on the FWBs part.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheException

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Sh1t test? Yes.....

How to pass? Say....."its complicated" and leave it at that. When in doubt use as few words as possible and be vague....dont be the chump spilling his feelings and problems all over women.
 
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There are no "sh!t tests" with women you're not dating/f*cking. Wanna know why? --> Because women you're not f*cking don't matter and therefore.. should NOT be occupying your thoughts AT ALL.

If you want to f*ck any of these women in your life.. then do it. If you can't.. then ignore their existence and meet new women. :up:
 
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TheException said:
How to pass? Say....."its complicated" and leave it at that. When in doubt use as few words as possible and be vague...
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THIS x 1000

women will hate AND love you for it. saying "it's complicated, let's talk about it later" was many times the difference between NC with a hottie, or making her a FWB. and my weenie prefers FWB over NC :D
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheException said:
Sh1t test? Yes.....

How to pass? Say....."its complicated" and leave it at that. When in doubt use as few words as possible and be vague....dont be the chump spilling his feelings and problems all over women.
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This (and understanding why it is so) is one of the top10 things to know with women, be it FWB, LTR or your mother/sister.

Extra points: If they keep asking, repeat exactly the same words, same tone: "it's complicated". They ask a third time: repeat exactly the same words. It ends there, I garantee you.
 
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Damn. I wont make this mistake again...

What i ended up saying was...

"well, i like you more.."

Hahaha
 
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ha ha ha ......i would have said because she cant keep up with me thats why............winked and walked away.
 
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tripod23 said:
ha ha ha ......i would have said because she cant keep up with me thats why............winked and walked away.
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Haha. Oh man. I like that one.

Next time
 
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She is really asking why you are sleeping with her.

You can say "Because I think you're hot!"

The question is not about the ex. Do not draw her into your answer, do not compare. This FWB is just asking a question out of insecurity about herself.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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